I have to say, that my 11 year old daughter amazes me! She’s a gymnast and she works super hard at her sport. It’s a very misunderstood sport, because these athletes make it look so easy, but it isn’t. It takes hard work, self-discipline and determination to make it anywhere into the elite end of the sport.
Being a gymnast myself for ten years, I totally understand the commitment and the challenges. Some may see it as cruel, others see the benefits that it gives children to help build their character and prepare them to succeed in the world of adulthood.
My daughter is a good little gymnast, and loves competing. She wins some and loses some. I am very proud of her when she wins, but I have to say that I am even more proud of her when she loses. You may think I am a cruel mother for saying that, but my husband and I are true believers of letting our children fail. We are not those parents that try to fix our children’s problems. We believe that they have to fix their problems themselves. Trust me…it kills us inside, but we give them strategies to help them overcome their obstacles, and watch how they handle their situation.
Every year, she will have a competition that she doesn’t do as well as she is capable of, and will get the wind taken out of her sails. Every year, she steps up her game. Becomes more determined than ever to better herself and make herself the best she can be. That is what I love to watch…that is what builds character for life…that is why gymnastics is so amazing!
You are out there performing all by yourself. If you don’t win…whose fault is it? Just like in real life. You have to learn to take blame for your part of things not working out the way you wanted. Take marriage for instance. It is a two way street. Every relationship is. How often do marriages end in divorce? Fifty percent of the time. Imagine if people started to take blame for their side of their relationship? Would these statistics be any different…maybe…maybe not, who knows? All I know is, that when my relationship starts to get rocky…I take a look at my side of the relationship. I have just as much control over the situation as my husband. I can blame him for making my life miserable, or I can blame myself for being miserable in the situation that I chose to enter into.
I loved my husband to the moon and back at one point in my life. Sure, life gets in the way, and things happen, but in the end, who lets the bitterness build?…Who takes for granted what they have?…Who doesn’t treat them like their best friend, but their worst enemy? Who disrespects them in front of others? Who has as much to blame for their relationship being dejected? Me!
That’s what gymnastics taught me, and I love watching it form my child into a persevering person. Is she giving up because things didn’t go her way? Absolutely not. She realizes where she went wrong and she is out to fix herself. Is she blaming anyone else for her bad competitions? Is it the judges’ fault? Did they mark her unfairly? Absolutely not! It is her fault she bent her legs…and she is well aware of that.
I feel that we are in a world of blame. Blame everyone but yourself. Are you that person? Feeling sorry for yourself because things didn’t work out the way you wanted them to? Blaming others for the way your life worked out? Whose fault is it? Not yours? Well, take another look at the situation you are in, and do like my 11 year old daughter does…look where you can fix yourself to become the person you want to be. Nobody else can make your life the way you want it…nobody, but yourself.
One of my favorite verses in the bible is Matthew 7:3-5…Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
Stop looking at others and take a good look at yourself. Get back up, and try again, and again,…and again, until you reach your gold medal performance. Feeling sorry for yourself, is not the answer, but being determined to rise above anything is the secret to success…in any part of your life! Good luck!