Remember back in your elementary school days, when you would play the game “Graveyard?” If you’ve never played, the object is to lay as still as possible, without moving a muscle…just like a dead person. As morbid as that sounds, kids love it! I’m a Phys. Ed teacher and it is one of my kindergartner class’ favorite game. They beg me to play…plus it is a great cool down activity.
As my years pass by as an educator, I notice that the children’s success with Graveyard, is related to their amount of self-control. It does take brain power to not move a muscle for a long period of time…especially for five year olds. This game might seem to some people as a waste of time, but as I develop my own wisdom and understanding of children and their development, I realize just how valuable this game is.
Self-control is something that determines your success as an adult. It helps you make the right choices in many areas of your life. From dealing with disappointment, and heartbreaks, to making the right decisions on major purchases and having success with finances. If people had sufficient self-control, think about how crime would be cut back. Think about how much debt would be eliminated. Think about how many more marriages would last if people had self-control to stick with their mate, not let the little things bother them, and let go of their egos to be a loving spouse.
People might look at the game of Graveyard as juvenile and useless, but those people are blind to one of the most important things in this world…self-control.
Don’t get me wrong, I have my areas that need work when it comes to self-control as we all do, but I am working on them. I love to shop, so impulse shopping is my area of concern. Who doesn’t love a great buy online? Who doesn’t love a sale at Winners? It’s already a bargain to begin with and then to find it on the clearance rack…all I can think is “JACKPOT!” I find shopping relaxing, and I love when a get home from a long day at work and find a parcel waiting for me on my door step. It’s like Christmas!
My 65 year old father is a great example of self-control gone astray. I love this man dearly, and when it comes to finances, he has control out his ying-yang, but he definitely needs to work desperately at his self-control in the area of patience. As soon as something doesn’t go to his perception of perfect, instant cursing starts. It is something that he can control when he is at work or in public, but at home it is a different story. Try raising children around this potty mouth…I’ve asked and pleaded, but it is something that he chooses to just let go. He doesn’t see the importance of controlling his language at home, and lowers his level of self-control.
Just like myself and my father, we all know we have areas that we need to improve on, when it comes to our self-control. I’m learning to stay away from my computer, to avoid the temptation to shop. I’m trying to do something other than pay a visit to Winners. If I had of learned to win the game of Graveyard, maybe I would not be struggling in my areas of self-control. Maybe if self-control was something that was brought more to my attention when my brain was forming, I might not struggle with this area. Who knows?
What I do know is the bible tells us in Galatians 5:22-23, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”
Imagine the world if we could all live by this one verse! Can you? No crime, no divorce, no debt, no swearing, and the list goes on. If only we could constantly obey this one verse! I know my world would be a better place if I could manage my own self-control issues!