King of the Castle

Are mornings crazy at your home?  I wake up two hours before I have to leave for work and we all have our normal morning routines.  Of course I spend my alone time reading and meditating on the wonderful word of God, which is the calm before the storm, because once I wake up the rest of the house, it’s a tornado of madness.

This morning, my son is sitting, tired eyed at the island, while I am whizzing around the kitchen preparing lunches, washing up dishes from the night before, making an after school snacks for before sporting events, my husband’s breakfast and trying to get my tea and breakfast into myself.  My son just sits and sits and is waiting for me to get his breakfast.  All he has for breakfast every morning is an Instant Breakfast, which is a mixed dry powdered that becomes a flavored milk after you add the milk.  All he needs is a cup, a spoon, the milk and the powdered product.

Finally, I asked him, “G, could you maybe get your own breakfast?   I’m a little busy here and I think you are able to handle this on your own.  Let’s try to be more independent and not sit waiting for me to wait on you.”

With a sigh and a sluggish disposition he tore himself off the stool and was interrupted by his father’s smart comment, “Yeah, G!  Like me!”

Here is my husband, sitting at the end of the table with his head held high with pride.  He’s sitting with his iPad in front of him, catching up on the latest sport news from the night before.  His bright royal blue Chicago Cubs robe is wrapped around him, and is definitely portraying his role as King of the Castle.

I had to laugh out loud, as my husband waited with pride for his breakfast to be unveiled before him.  He has the same breakfast pretty much every morning, and I enjoy getting it all ready for him and placing it on the table awaiting my thank you and good morning kiss.  This is how we roll as husband and wife.

Some might screw up their noses at this, others might think I am crazy, but that is fine by me.  I realize that he is the King of our castle, and in all honesty, he does an incredible job of it too.  He’s a very hard worker, is an amazing dad and husband and for everything he does for me and his children I wish I could do more for him.

This is the way God designed marriage.  Sadly, society has frowned upon this since woman’s rights maybe?  I just know that everything works better with laws, and to me this is one of the sure fire laws of marriage; be submissive to your husband.

My husband never asked for me to make him breakfast every morning.  My husband doesn’t expect me to do this for him.  This daily tradition has nothing to do with my husband, it is all me.  It is me trying to show my love for my husband and my gratitude for all that he does for me and our children.  This is all me trying to send him off into his dog-eat-dog world with a loving meal and a time to relax and enjoy his family before his day begins.  It’s all me trying to be the Proverbs 31 Wife that I myself have set as a standard.  It has absolutely nothing to do with him, but instead it is me showering my husband with love to show God what kind of a person I am inside.  I’m showing selfless love to both my husband and to God.  Is that so horrible?

Ephesians 5:22-33 explains, “For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.”  This doesn’t mean that your husband dictates to you, this just means that he is the head of the home and wives are there to serve him, like we would be serving the Lord.  Please understand, wives are just as important as the husband, but just like in any business or associating, there is a person at the top of the social structure who makes the final decision.  God has set it up that the man is to make the final decisions in the home.

My husband runs two businesses and is very successful at this.  He definitely is a strong decision maker and has a gift for organizing, coordinating, problem solving, and leadership.  This holds true for the home too.  He is the King of Our Castle, and I’m proud to say he rocks at it.  I’m honored that I have the opportunity to make his day start off on the right foot, and shower him with affection before he gets belted with decisions and life.

Take some marriage advice for the Bible.  Try to make your home the way God designed it to be.  See if anything changes for you.  I know I witnessed a huge transformation once I started to honor the hierarchy of the home that was the plan for us from our great Divine Creator.