Rough Ruby

I have to admit, when I started this blog I never dreamed it would turn out the way it has.  I’m very pleased with what it has exploded into, and it just goes to prove that if you follow God’s will he will take you places that you’ve never dreamed of going.

One place I never dreamed I would become is a Proverbs 31 Woman.  This chapter really tugged at my heart strings, and every morning I meditate and pray for the power to become as incredible as this woman.  I know reality is that it is just a dream, but I will never cease to pray that someday I will be as unbelievable as her.

My children are well aware of my inspirational biblical character, and often make fun of me, in a playful manner.  The other day, my son was sitting at the table as the family is having a bedtime snack, and he pipes up and says, “Dad, ever since mom decided to be the Proverbs 36 Woman, you think you are pretty, freaking wonderful.  Don’t you?”

As I corrected him on the chapter of Proverbs, I had to chuckle.  My husband really does think he IS wonderful and will throw it in my children’s faces as much as possible!  He moved from the bottom of the totem pole to the top, and isn’t letting my kids live it down.

Putting my husband number one, and becoming a treasure to him is only a miniscule detail on become a Proverbs 31 Woman.  Her resumé is very, v-e-r-y impressive.  For today, I would just like to look at Proverbs 31:10, which is just the tip of the iceberg for this overachieving woman.  Proverbs 31: 10 explains, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”

Trust me people, I am definitely no rare gem!  I’m born and raised in a small country setting and my upbringing was nothing like a princess.  I caught frogs and kept them for pets, I loved making mud pies, and it isn’t until lately that I’ve mastered the concept of, should-I-think-it-or-should-I-say-it.  So, noble would NOT be a word that I ever would have used to describe myself.  Am I trying to be?  Most definitely.  Am I successful?  Some days, but it is work in progress and without meditation and prayer, it is a hard goal to reach.

A noble wife IS rare and extraordinary, and there are not many left in this world of woman’s liberation.  I’ve been thinking hard on what a noble woman is, and I’ve come to this conclusion.  A noble woman supports her husband and his decisions and does not rival her husband.  She is content serving her family and realizes that housework is part of the job description.

She is a hard working woman, who understands that this is what a loving wife does.  She puts herself last and the rest of her family in front of her own selfish needs.  Does this mean that you let your family torture you and make you their slave?  No, that isn’t what I’m saying, but you have to do your work with a happy heart.

A Proverbs 31 woman, doesn’t gossip about other people and stays away from people and places that this is rampant.  Have you ever noticed that if you need to know what is going on in your home town all you have to do is ask a hairdresser or a beautician?  That is the land of gossip.  That is where everyone comes together, like a church, but instead of getting the word of God, they are getting the chatter of the town.  Facebook, Instagram and Twitter is another place of gossip, and a time waster.

Another thing that I had to change on this journey of mine, was stop complaining to people about what my husband was doing that made me unhappy, that was making him look bad and embarrassing him too.  Nobody wants other people to know about their flaws and weaknesses.  We all have our flaws, but I never realized how horrible I was being with this one until I started reading about becoming a better wife.  It was very selfish of me.

I might not be that ruby yet, but someday, I will be shining in all my glory, and hopefully I will make my husband proud to say I am his wife.  First, we have to humble ourselves to see our flaws, and adjust our lives according to these flaws, and trust me—I have many!  Look at your work ethic, your thought pattern, you attitude, your words and your priorities, what area do you need work on?  Your list is probably smaller than mine, but good luck!