Pro-active. Isn’t that a great word? It’s used in the world of education quite frequently. We are trying to be pro-active this time of the year to keep on top of the behavior problems that arise because this time of the year students are getting tired of one another, are fed up with school and are ready for their summers to begin. You would think this would be an easy time of the year, now that the homestretch is in sight, but honestly, it is the worst part of the year.
Being pro-active is a good way to be for any part of your life. Let’s take marriage for instance. We have to constantly be pro-active in keeping our marriage fresh and alive. It is easy to let your marriage take the back burner in life, and neglect it. We all think that our spouse is happy and life is just busy and getting in the way of your time, but this isn’t always the case.
How many of us put everyone else before our husband, or wife? I know I’m guilty of putting everyone ahead of my husband. I just think that his needs aren’t as important as our children’s. I have life-long friendships that I want to keep alive and have to put energy into keeping them. I have gymnasts that I coach and I want to help them reach their gymnastics goals. I have students that I am responsible for and have to help reach their outcomes in the 195 days that I have them. I have deadlines that I need to reach.
The list of our responsibilities are endless. Everyone knows the feeling, but how many of us think pro-actively? How many of us reevaluate our lives frequently so that we can ensure that we are setting our priorities straight?
Being pro-active in our marriage is the first and most important step in our daily living. Why, you may wonder? Without a strong marriage, what do we have? Nothing. It’s easy to give up on marriages that aren’t going the way we dreamed. Television, songs, and movies of today are all about promoting adulterous behavior. Matthew 13:4 explains, “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
In today’s society, the importance of marriage is overlooked. We seem to deem everything more important so you can see why adulterous behavior could happen. If we are pro-active with our relationships and put some energy into them, this might be preventative. Just like being pro-active in the classroom and making sure behavior issues don’t have the time to arise, we can do the same with our marriages. It is more work than letting things roll the way they are rolling but in the end, you will be thankful of your efforts.
A lifetime is a long time to be with one person. If you don’t put the energy into your marriage, you will have your struggles. You will have your struggles even with putting energy into it and being pro-active. Put your own selfishness aside, and make your spouse’s life all that they deserve to have. Make them your number one priority in your life after God. That is being pro-active and you will witness your marriage become all that God created it to be.
This isn’t going to be easy. Juggling life and a marriage is a balancing act that even the greatest of circus performers can’t even handle, but you have to try. Being pro-active will help make the juggling act easier.