Forming Relationships

Have you ever watched the Goldbers?  My family and I enjoy watching this 80s family’s tales unfold that all have a valuable life lesson at the end!  This family is priceless!  I’m not much of a television girl, but this show is on my weekly routine.  If you’ve never seen this show, I highly recommend it.  It is a family from the 80s and the mother, Beverly Goldberg is hilarious.  Maybe I find her character funny because I can relate to her being a crazy mother myself, I don’t know.  I just enjoy her character and she is always going to make me burst out in a full belly laugh.

I watched the Mother’s Day episode and once again it lived up to my expectations!  It wasn’t as centered around mothers as I thought it was going to be.  Part of the show was showing how the father, Murray Goldberg wouldn’t let his youngest son, Eric, attend space camp.  The son set out in a mission to convince his father he had to go, and to stop crushing his dreams.

Eventually it is revealed that his father’s dreams of becoming a ventriloquist were smashed by his father.  Eric visited his father’s father and this story was unveiled.  Eric took the dumby home with him, trying to touch the child still left inside of his father, and try to make the connection how it is history repeating itself.  His father crushed his dreams and now Murray was crushing Eric’s.

Sure enough, this technique works, but not before Mr. Goldberg divulges his disappointing childhood not knowing if his father was going to come home at night.  How his father deserted him most of his life.  How his father never let him do anything.  It broke Eric’s heart and then he became empathetic to the way his father has become.  It broke my heart too.

How many of us harden our hearts towards people that might come off brash or bold?  How many of us form judgment of people before we know what lies beneath the surface of these human bodies?  We all have our stories.  Some might be sadder than others for sure, but everyone has their heartaches and hurdles they have to overcome.  Just like Murray Goldberg, he had a sad story, but he rose above it and left his past behind and became a better father than the father he had.

Mr. Goldberg didn’t form a relationship with his father.  How many of us are like that?  How many of us don’t have a relationship with our Heavenly Father?  I was watching Dr. Oz the other night because a friend of mine informed me he had on Near Death Experiences on his show this day.  One individual experienced the depths of hell after he was shot, but was saved by his great father, whose voice thundered, “It is not your time.”

Why did this man who had a NDE explain he experienced hell?  In his words it was because he didn’t have a relationship with God.  He really didn’t believe that God existed, and so didn’t ever think about God.

We all have to develop a relationship with God.  Make time for him.  Be thankful for everything that we have.  Even if you are in a low part of your life, you still have things to be grateful for.  We can all take time out of our lives, whether it is lying in bed in the morning as you slowly wake up.  Give praise then for the gift of another morning.  Be thankful for the roof over your head, the food you ate and the days that you are still blessed to see the sun rise.

Hebrews 11:6 reminds us, “And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.”

There is a reward for seeking God, and building a relationship with him, just like there is a reward for building a relationship with your own father or mother.  It is the most selfless love there is.  He wants you to be happy, but if he’s not making you happy he is teaching you a lesson.  It might be hard to build a relationship with a person you can’t see, but it has its huge rewards.