Supper time is always a challenge at my home. Why? You may be wondering. It’s very hard to make four hungry people happy and reach all their wants and needs in one meal. I was a picky eater when I was younger and my incredible mother would make me whatever I wanted or felt like for supper, even if it was over and above what she already made.
Now, I am blessed to raise a picky eater of my own and I am doing exactly what my mother did for me. I sometimes make three or four different meals, or renditions of my meal. I’m still a bit picky and don’t like potatoes, so when I make the rest of my family potatoes I have to make some other side for myself. It’s never ending, but I don’t mind. I’m in the kitchen anyway, what would it matter if I add more to the menu.
I have a great friend who thinks that I am setting my son up for a disappointing future, because how many woman are going to be like me? I have to admit, this friend has a great point. Does it change the way that I am going to treat my family? Absolutely not! Will my son find a wife that will do this for him? Great question! I’m not a fortune teller, so I can’t answer that, but if God has anything to do with it, I guess the answer is yes. I’m already praying that my son meets a great Proverbs 31 Woman who will treat him the way a man should be treated.
My mother taught me the most valuable life lesson and that is to love your family with a selfless love. You serve your family with all your heart and soul and if that means making four different suppers, then so be it. Being a mother has also taught me to put my children before myself. I realize this might be an archaic way of thinking, but it is who I’ve become.
Many things will happen over the years with families, and if we take a selfless love point of view life becomes so much easier. Before reading the bible every day I was never of this opinion. I really struggled when I first had my child, mostly because I still had a selfish heart. I still was worried about my needs, about my wants, and about my desires.
Eventually, I grew out of this stage of my life. They say that having infants are expensive, well, it only gets worse when you have two very active and accomplished athletes. Money goes out as fast as it comes in, which means Momma Bear has to sacrifice some of her wardrobe spending to compensate the budget.
Having children has been a great lesson for my heart, and so has being married and living through the different seasons that a couple goes through. My heart has changed and now it is starting to change outside of my family too. I find myself much more empathetic and in touch with my inner self, that I never knew existed before. It is all because of my time with God every morning. He is making me see things through new eyes.
In 1 Corinthians 13:10-12 it is told, “But when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.”
I’m just starting to see how childish I really was—even in my late 30s, I was still growing as a mother and a wife. Things happen in your life to help you to grow up and find that selfless self that God wants us to be like. I still have childish ways that I have to grow out of, and with God’s help I know it is possible.
People can tell me that I am crazy to spoil my family like I do, but it is just part of who I grew to become. Since it is God echoing this selflessness in my heart, I am going to fly with it. He is the Divine Creator, so I am following his lead.
Are you giving selfless love to people around you? If not, give it a try. It is more rewarding that you could ever imagine!