I love travelling on the weekends with sports! You get to form close bonds with people and learn more about other families. There is nothing like spending a weekend in a hotel with a family to get to know them better. This past weekend, I was fortunate to spend my weekend with two lovely families and get to know them both better. This past weekend, I also learn that growing up in the country is a total different experience than growing up in the city.
Why you may ask?
There are many reasons, but one is that in the country we aren’t as aware of things that are going on around us. My closest neighbor was about a 5 minute walk away. In the city, the homes are much closer and it is easier to communicate with one another. If something happens in our little community in the country, nobody really knows about it.
I also while growing up in the city, that if there is ever a fire, the city folk go and watch the fires burn. Why did I learn this, you may wonder? You see, there was a fire in the place we were staying and one of the family members was extremely excited to go and watch this fire to see what was going on. I found it quite hilarious, but to others, I was the odd duck. I never went and watched a fire. By the time we found out there was a fire, we would still have to drive for fifteen minutes or more to get out of the country just to get to the fire. By that time the fire would be out.
It was very amusing listening to their stories of the fires that they did go and see. One place stored vehicles and boats for the winter, and they explained that you could hear the gas tanks exploding one by one as they heated up from the fire.
As I thought about these stories later, I thought how this is much the same as gossip. Once the story heats up and gets to the height of its momentum they explode and keep on burning. Until of course something else bigger and better comes along and then that one explodes and adds fuel to the gossiping fires.
Everyone knows that gossiping is wrong, but it is entertainment. We are all born curious and want to know what is going on around us, that is human nature. Social media wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t for curious people. The one that gets me is the celebrity gossip television programs and magazines. Growing up in the country I only had one channel. This made me have no interest in TV or the celebrities that come with it, nor what they choose to do with their lives. I have a hard enough time keeping up with my own life.
Don’t get me wrong. I am as guilty of gossiping as the next guy, but it is a personal issue that I am really trying to improve on. It’s hard though! I’m trying extremely hard to put the fires out instead of adding fuel to them and participating in them.
I love Proverbs 10:18-21, because it reminds us what we should be doing with our words. “Anyone who hides hatred is a liar. Anyone who spreads gossip is a fool. The more you talk, the more likely you are to sin. If you are wise, you will keep quiet. A good person’s words are like pure silver; a wicked person’s ideas are worthless. A good person’s words will benefit many people, but you can kill yourself with stupidity.”
That gives us a great outline of what we should be doing with our words. Talking less is the hard part for me, but I am really trying to work on it. Instead of throwing fuel on the fires of gossip, I am trying to smother it by keeping my mouth closed, and that way, I will be less likely to sin. I can see how a small spark can set an entire forest on fire! Jump on board with me, and try smother the fire, instead of adding fuel and try to stop the gossip at a spark.