Tranquility Over Hostility

WWE.  I have to say, I am very glad that my son is over this crazy stage in his life.  I supported it while he was going through it, but am overjoyed when I see the kids in my class talking about these wrestlers with such admiration, that my son is over this.  It makes me wonder if every boy goes through this stage.

I realize that it is part of being a boy.  Rough housing with their fathers is supposed to be healthy for their development, and when this is going down in my home, I try to stay calm, but I just don’t like it.  I don’t like any confrontation.  I don’t enjoy the sport of wrestling, boxing, kick boxing, tae kwon do, or any martial art where people are going head to head to try and come out the dominant person.  I just get a knot in my stomach at any of this nonsense.

It’s big with males.  They need to be the dominant personality.  The alpha male.  But why?  Who cares?  There are also lots of females that need to be the dominant people now-a-days too.  Females can be even worse exerting their authority, and we can definitely become overly controlling.  I know I’ve been guilty of this myself within my home.  I wanted things done the way I felt was the proper way, and didn’t leave myself open to any other opinions or ideas.

As I study the bible, and realize how much we bring our own stresses on in our world, I’m realizing how trivial these things are.  I love the Proverb 17:14, “The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out.”  When we start an argument or fight it is like the first break in the dam.  We have to learn to tame our tongue and our emotions before we break the dam.

That is very true with any relationship.  Your marriage.  Your relationship with your children or your parents.  Your work relationships.  Any relationship.  It takes a bigger person to just relax and keep their opinions to themselves that it is for someone to mouth off and tell you what they feel.

Fighting is such a wasted emotion.  It isn’t worth the effort, or the stress.  Next time you want to argue with your husband because he didn’t do something you want him to do, give him a loving kiss and just do it yourself.  Is someone spreading rumors about you?  Let them go, you know what the truth is.  If your children are not listening to you, instead of getting all upset, sit down with them and spend some quality time with them, then do what you were wanting them to do together.  Is your boss on your back about something?  Relax and make the best of your situation, they are probably just doing their job.

Whatever it is that is getting you upset and flaring your anger, be the bigger person and choose tranquility instead of hostility.

I understood when my son was going through his WWE stage that it was a healthy part of the male development, but in all honesty, it is a childish art form.  Choosing hostility over tranquility is also a very childish form of behavior.  Many people never grow out of this stage, and need to always be right, or always be one up on someone else.

Next time you feel your temper flaring, choose tranquility.  Somehow.  Some way.  Be creative and let the hostility leave your body and watch how incredible the outcome is.  You will wonder why you never tried this before now!

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