Boxing Day! Who feels like they’ve literally been boxed around by Mike Tyson? Exhausted mentally, physically and emotionally. There is too little time to get everything that we want to get done – done. The holiday season can be tough on us from all angles of our being. We are burning our candles at both ends trying to make everything perfect. But why?
Is there a reward for you if you pull off the perfect holiday season? What drives us to put ourselves through such a torturous situation? Christmas Eve supper. Christmas morning brunch. Christmas Supper. Boxing Day party with your friends. Really? Do we need to cram so much into such a short period of time? Obviously we do. I know some families that have two Christmas suppers. How is that humanly possible?
We all do it. I’m sure I’m not the only one with a crazily booked schedule from the 23rd of December right through to the New Years. If only we could say no to ourselves. That is our problem. We can’t say no. We don’t want to slow down. For some reason we thrive on this pressure. We don’t want to miss anything and we want to see people that we don’t get to see all year. I get it. I totally understand why we push ourselves to the brink of insanity during this time of the year.
We feel that we “need” to do all these things. Is it a need or a desire to do everything? Once it is a desire in us, then it is all ego driven. It’s our perception of what we “need” to do. Here we are during the most spiritual time of the year, celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ and we are making perceptions in our head of how we should be celebrating the season.
Do you think he would want us to be stressing ourselves silly over this time of the year? Do you think he wants us to be burning our candle at both ends? Absolutely not. I love the part in A Course in Miracles in Chapter 11 “God or the Ego” where it says, “The ego analyzes; the Holy Spirit accepts. The appreciating of wholeness comes only through acceptance, for to analyze means to break down or to separate out. The attempt to understand totality by breaking it down is clearly the characteristically contradictory approach of the ego to everything.”
Deep right? If you wondering what it all means, it’s quite simple. Out of the chaos of Christmas, or anything in your life, that is the ego trying to bring meaning to your life through this chaos. For some reason as humans we crave this chaos. We would feel lonely and unimportant if we didn’t have it in our worlds. We want to think we “need” to be doing all of these activities to make our egos feels important.
I’m sure you’ve witnessed people in your life like this. They aren’t happy unless they have chaos in their lives. There is always some sort of drama that they are fixated on. One day it is one issue, another day it is another. It is Boxing Day every day in their world. Christmas is always throwing up in their lives.
If we can separate ourselves from this chaos, then that is when we finally learn what salvation is. We finally can feel the peace and love that the holiday season is all about. Harmony is a threat to the ego. It doesn’t want us to live in harmony. It wants us in chaotic situations. It’s what it thrives on.
Are you one of those people who feed their ego with the need for drama in your life? Do you feed on other people’s chaos and love to gossip about the upsets in other people’s lives? Stop. Just focus on what makes life easy. Lose the ego and the drama. Start focusing on you and only you and what makes your soul happy. People aren’t out to get you…your ego is!
How do you do this? First of all you have to start cleaning out your boxes…that is the purpose of Boxing Day. It’s time to clean your emotional boxes. All the stuff that your ego has been feeding on from your subconscious that you have no idea is even there. How do you empty these boxes? One way. Meditation. Sitting in silence with yourself. Getting to know your soul, and quieting that dreaded ego.
My father once asked me, “Isn’t prayer the same as meditating?” My response to this was, “Prayer is talking to God, where meditation is waiting for God to talk to you.” That’s when you empty out all your boxes. Trust me. In the chaos of Christmas, it is worth sitting in silence for even 5 minutes a day. Give it a try and see if you hear anything from God. If you do I promise you will never want to live in chaos of Boxing Day ever again!