The month of February is quickly approaching and I’m sure you’ve already been littered with Valentine’s Day paraphernalia in stores and commercials. How many of you are already dreaming of how you want your Valentine’s Day to pan out? The hype of this commercialized celebration really gets me thinking. How many of us want to be loved to our core for who we truly are, but how many of us don’t really love ourselves?
I was very guilty of this in one point of my life. My ego had me convinced that I was sub-par. That I wasn’t as great as all the amazing people that surround me in my life. I compared myself to everyone, and it just seemed that I could never match up.
How many of you feel like that? How many of you find yourself comparing yourself to the people around you? How many of you are wishing you were more like someone else? If you are-STOP! We are all created equal, and now that I am finally understanding about how the ego works, I am finally cluing into this.
The ego wants us to want more. It wants us to think we aren’t good enough or that we don’t have enough. It IS the part inside of us that constantly wants more. Whether you find yourself wanting more love, more money, more food, more alcohol, more drugs, or more attention from the opposite sex that is all just your ego ruling your life.
Once I started on my spiritual journey, and learned more about my ego, I finally started to understand. It wasn’t the true me feeling this way about myself, but instead, my ego taking over my heart and making me believe I wasn’t enough.
As much as I read the Bible, and looked for answers, the more I was drawn to other spiritual texts. One of my favorite is the teaching of the Buddha. He understood life, then he taught it in ways that human beings could easily understand. Thich Nhat Hanh became my go-to man for helping me understand these teachings. This man has written over 100 books on how to live a peaceful, loving and meaningful life, and I recommend him to anyone who feels lost in their Earthly journey.
One of my favorite purchases would be “Chanting from the Heart. Buddhist Ceremonies and Daily Practices.” In this book I found an exercise called a “Love Meditation.” It’s a meditation that focuses on loving you. Thich Nhat Hanh says, “Until we are able to love and take care of ourselves, we cannot be of much help to others.” For so many years, I was trying to be the best wife, best parent, best teacher, best friend I could be, but I didn’t love myself. I couldn’t serve these people properly without first finding love for myself. Since I have, what a difference it has made in my world.
This Love Meditation is simple. First you recite it to yourself every day until you finally start feeling true and absolute love for yourself. Once you find this love for yourself, then you start continue reciting it but substitute the “I” with “he,” “she” or “they” for someone you love. After a few months of that, then recite it about someone you like, then someone that you feel neutral about and finally about someone that has made you suffer. This is the hard part, but this is when you will finally feel totally liberation, and know that you are able to move past the suffering that this person has caused you.
The Love Meditation is as follows:
“May I be peaceful, happy, and light in body and spirit.
May I be safe and free from injury.
May I be free from anger, fear and anxiety.
May I learn to look at myself with the eyes of understanding and love.
May I be able to recognize and touch the seeds of joy and happiness in myself.
May I learn to identify and see the sources of anger, craving and delusion in myself.
May I know how to nourish the seeds of joy in myself every day.
May I be able to live fresh, solid and free.
May I be free from attachment and aversion, but not be indifferent.”
Let’s take this Valentine season to find love for the one who truly matters the most in this world. You. Say this to yourself every day and watch how your mind transforms. In a few months from now, say it about someone that has made you suffer and that is even more empowering!
All the diamonds, pearls, roses or chocolate in this world will not fill the hole in your soul. You have to fill it with self-love. Nothing else will replace it. You can search and search and search, but until you finally find it in yourself to love yourself, you will forever have a hole in your soul.
I want all my readers, just for this month of Love, to recite this meditation about themselves. Watch how it transforms your life. I know you will finally have the Valentine’s Day that you were always dreaming to have. Loving yourself is better than any diamonds, pearls, roses or chocolate. It is life transforming!