Love You!

The month of February is quickly approaching and I’m sure you’ve already been littered with Valentine’s Day paraphernalia in stores and commercials.  How many of you are already dreaming of how you want your Valentine’s Day to pan out?  The hype of this commercialized celebration really gets me thinking.  How many of us want to be loved to our core for who we truly are, but how many of us don’t really love ourselves?

I was very guilty of this in one point of my life.  My ego had me convinced that I was sub-par.  That I wasn’t as great as all the amazing people that surround me in my life.  I compared myself to everyone, and it just seemed that I could never match up.

How many of you feel like that?  How many of you find yourself comparing yourself to the people around you?  How many of you are wishing you were more like someone else?  If you are-STOP!  We are all created equal, and now that I am finally understanding about how the ego works, I am finally cluing into this.

The ego wants us to want more.  It wants us to think we aren’t good enough or that we don’t have enough.  It IS the part inside of us that constantly wants more.  Whether you find yourself wanting more love, more money, more food, more alcohol, more drugs, or more attention from the opposite sex that is all just your ego ruling your life.

Once I started on my spiritual journey, and learned more about my ego, I finally started to understand.  It wasn’t the true me feeling this way about myself, but instead, my ego taking over my heart and making me believe I wasn’t enough.

As much as I read the Bible, and looked for answers, the more I was drawn to other spiritual texts.  One of my favorite is the teaching of the Buddha.  He understood life, then he taught it in ways that human beings could easily understand.  Thich Nhat Hanh became my go-to man for helping me understand these teachings.  This man has written over 100 books on how to live a peaceful, loving and meaningful life, and I recommend him to anyone who feels lost in their Earthly journey.

One of my favorite purchases would be “Chanting from the Heart.  Buddhist Ceremonies and Daily Practices.”  In this book I found an exercise called a “Love Meditation.”  It’s a meditation that focuses on loving you.  Thich Nhat Hanh says, “Until we are able to love and take care of ourselves, we cannot be of much help to others.”  For so many years, I was trying to be the best wife, best parent, best teacher, best friend I could be, but I didn’t love myself.  I couldn’t serve these people properly without first finding love for myself.  Since I have, what a difference it has made in my world.

This Love Meditation is simple.  First you recite it to yourself every day until you finally start feeling true and absolute love for yourself.  Once you find this love for yourself, then you start continue reciting it but substitute the “I” with “he,” “she” or “they” for someone you love.  After a few months of that, then recite it about someone you like, then someone that you feel neutral about and finally about someone that has made you suffer.  This is the hard part, but this is when you will finally feel totally liberation, and know that you are able to move past the suffering that this person has caused you.

The Love Meditation is as follows:

“May I be peaceful, happy, and light in body and spirit.

May I be safe and free from injury.

May I be free from anger, fear and anxiety. 

May I learn to look at myself with the eyes of understanding and love.

May I be able to recognize and touch the seeds of joy and happiness in myself.

May I learn to identify and see the sources of anger, craving and delusion in myself.

 May I know how to nourish the seeds of joy in myself every day.

May I be able to live fresh, solid and free.

May I be free from attachment and aversion, but not be indifferent.”

Let’s take this Valentine season to find love for the one who truly matters the most in this world.  You.  Say this to yourself every day and watch how your mind transforms.  In a few months from now, say it about someone that has made you suffer and that is even more empowering!

All the diamonds, pearls, roses or chocolate in this world will not fill the hole in your soul.  You have to fill it with self-love.  Nothing else will replace it.  You can search and search and search, but until you finally find it in yourself to love yourself, you will forever have a hole in your soul.

I want all my readers, just for this month of Love, to recite this meditation about themselves.  Watch how it transforms your life.  I know you will finally have the Valentine’s Day that you were always dreaming to have.  Loving yourself is better than any diamonds, pearls, roses or chocolate.  It is life transforming!

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Lobster Crush

Lobster!  Who doesn’t love a lobster?  Can you picture it?  That Red Lobster commercial where the garlic butter is slowly dripping off the end of the red, steaming claw.  Makes my mouth water just thinking about it.  I love lobsters, and not just for their delicious taste when drizzled with butter and garlic, but also because of the cool, mindful creatures that they are.  I know my first venture into learning more about the lobster was when I watched an episode of Friends, and Phoebe said that Rachel was Ross’s lobster.  Anyone else love that episode?

I love lobsters so much that I even bought the Alex and Ani bracelet of the lobster.  It actually is very significant to me.  Trust me.  I wouldn’t be sporting a crustacean on my wrist if it didn’t hold a great importance for me.

Other people also know that I love lobsters.  My sister-in-law gave me a gift of  lobster claw salt and pepper shakers.  I display them proudly in my kitchen.  Again, showing the significance of the lobster for all the world to see.  To me, these homely critters are something that we all should honor and respect.

What makes the lobster so admirable to me is ability to be mindful.  It is one of the few animals that can feel the internal stresses that are being put on its body.  A lobster will crawl around out in the open of the bottom of the sea until it feels a little tension, stress or pressure…like its body is getting too snug inside its shell.

Once it is mindful of the sensation of tension, stress and pressure it heads for cover between or under some rocks, to protect itself from predatory fish and this is where it will stay, safe and secure, until it sheds its old shell and develops a new one.  Isn’t that incredible.  It knows when to remove itself from its normal surroundings and goes to be alone until it is ready to brave the underwater world again protected by its new shell.

A lobster is so much smarter in this manner than humans.  How many of us deal with the stresses of everyday life, and keep pushing ourselves and pushing ourselves until finally we break down.  There are many ways of our body’s reacting to these stresses.  Some of us have anxiety attacks and resort to taking medications to ease this problem.  Others can’t sleep and again, visit the doctor to try and fix the problem with medication.  It is even scientifically proven now that they can connect different types of cancer to our emotional stressors.  But we continue to just push and push in our shells that are too small for us to live comfortably in and constantly are in pain.

Why?  Why do we crush ourselves internally like this?  What are we trying to prove?  Who are we trying to impress?  Some stress in our lives is a good thing, but when we don’t know how to deal with it, that is when it becomes a bad thing.  We are so wrapped up on the external part of our lives that we forget about the most important, internal part that makes us tick.  We are nothing like the lobster who is all about his internal world.

We have to learn to start focusing on this internal part of ourselves and start being mindful of our feelings and how we internally govern our focus.  Our emotions were never meant to crush us, but instead just push us to become all we’ve been created to be.  We are supposed to experience hardships in our lifetime.  That is what helps us grow as individuals.  What we need are strategies for coping with this pressure, tension and stress that life throws at us.

One of my favorite quotes about stress is one from the Buddha, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”  This doesn’t have to be just anger, it is any kind of negative emotion.  Guilt, shame, stress, tension, anger, or fear…they are all just emotions that put pressures on our outer shells and make us sick in some form when we ignore them.  We have to stop thinking that by holding onto any negative emotions that they will hurt someone else.  How many of us hold grudges because we think they are hurting the other person?  In reality, the only person they are hurting is us.

Proverbs 12:25 pretty much says the same thing as Buddha, “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.”

Step away from all this negativity in your life and be mindful like the lobsters when your shell is about to crack open from the pressure.  You know the physical signs that you’ve had enough.  Listen to these signs and find your way to shed your old shell and let your new one grow back on with room to breathe.  My strategy is meditation, because I’ve witness the powerful effects of this method, but do what works for you.

Whether it is meditation, prayer, or sitting in silence in a bubble bath.  Just make time to get in touch with your inner self, and learn to rid your body of this negativity that is crushing your inner being.  Shed that shell that has grown too small on your life and is crushing you in so many ways.  You’ll be surprised just how freeing it is!

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European Mistle Thrush

I’m becoming a real lover of nature, as I am finding that we can learn so much about life through a mindful watch on the way nature works.  Did you know that there are many health benefits from being out in nature more often?  This new find gave me a new love for nature.  I have a treadmill, but will run outside in -25 degree Celsius weather, just to get my time in for the day with the great outdoors.

Lately, in my hometown, we’ve been blessed with a rare visiting bird called a European Mistle Thrush and it’s attracting bird lovers from across Canada and the United States.  I find this very intriguing.  You may think I’m crazy or wonder why, but let me explain.

Have you ever tried to track a bird?  Growing up in the country, and living a boring childhood, this is something that I honestly tried to do.  I would spend an afternoon following a bird around until finally it would fly away and I couldn’t keep track of it any longer.

Even when I did find that special bird I decided to follow, I never knew where the bird had originated.  I was never educated on any other bird species other than the local residential birds like the crow, robin, cardinal and of course the partridge that were taught to me from childhood.  They are the birds I grew up around.  I’ve never seen any other birds.

For some reason, more clever bird watchers than myself, when educated on the different species of bird, can determine a bird’s origin, like they have with this European Mistle Thrush bird from Europe.

Would they know exactly where in Europe?  Probably not.  Many of us are very much on the path similar to these birds.  We originate in one place, and have our own flight pattern, and stops along our way.  Sometimes, of course, we may get lost like this poor bird from Europe, but then we usually find a way back home.

How many of us look at other people’s paths uneducated?  How many of us think we should know what is the best path for certain people, even though we have no idea where they came from or where they have flown to?  How many of us push our beliefs on people, just because they are what were taught to us from childhood or because we “think” we are right?  How many of us think our way is the right way and only way…mostly because we read it on a map that we feel is the only map to read.

This is the path we choose to take, but that might not be the flight pattern for every bird in this world.  Have you ever judged someone because they don’t believe the way you do?  Have you ever tried to educate birds on your flight path because you are convinced it is the only way to reach the divine destination?  How many of us think we should map out the flight patterns for the birds around us or the birds we are raising in our own nests, just because we think we know best?

If only we could free ourselves of this judgment.  How birds should fly, or the paths that they should take, wouldn’t the world be a much better place?  We would be free of all this fighting over who is right and who is wrong.  We have to lose this egocentric vision that we have the only map to this grande destination.

We have no idea what is in a person’s heart, or their intentions.  Just because they don’t take the same route as us doesn’t make you any better than anyone else.  Just like the bird’s path, we have no idea its mapped course, but we love to judge it.  We love to think we are from an exclusive bird club with the golden treasure map, judging others that might think differently.  Most, if not all religions stress this factor about judging others, but for some reason we all still do it…constantly.  When I started researching this, I couldn’t believe all the spiritual texts similarities.

“Happy is the person who finds fault with himself instead of finding fault with others.” This was from Islam’s Hadith.  Or from the Bible in the Book of Luke 6:37 that says, “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;” Or this quote from Hinduism’s Garuda Purana 112,  “The vile are ever prone to detect the faults of others, though they be as small as mustard seeds, and persistently shut their eyes against their own, though they be as large as Vilva fruit.”

I’m a huge fan of Buddha and this quote, “Easily seen are others’ faults, hard indeed to see are one’s own. Like chaff one winnows others’ faults, but one’s own one hides, as a crafty fowler conceals himself by camouflage.  He who sees others’ faults is ever irritable–his corruptions grow. He is far from the destruction of the corruptions.”  This is from the Dhammapada 252-53.  And my new personal favorite that I found while researching this topic, “A man holding a basket of eggs does not dance on stones.” From the African Traditional Religions, Buji Proverb (Nigeria).

I just sited five quotes from five different spiritual texts, all expressing the importance of not judging others, but still we continually do it…myself included.  I’m thinking since it is such a universal teaching throughout all religions, that maybe…just maybe…we might want to start focusing our attention towards bettering ourselves in this area and stop trying to track birds and the path they choose to fly.  Just let them fly free.  Nobody flies the same path.

The Birders in this province think that this European Mistle Thrush must have gotten separated from its flock and then been driven to Canada by strong winds and bad weather.  This is just their educated judgment.  In reality, we all go through our times of strong winds and bad weather, and that is the path that we must take to find the place that we are supposed to end up.  It’s our own personal flight path, and it is not for anyone to judge or criticize.  It’s just for us to experience and enjoy the ride…judgment free!

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Spiritual Housing

I am so grateful and blessed for the house that my family and I live in.  I love everything about our home.  Our home is a “split entry” home where we all have spacious bedrooms, along with a meditation room and a big home gym.  The favorite part of our home is the kitchen and dining room that is all one.  I never wanted a formal dining room and didn’t see the need of this planning our home.  To me a home gym is much more important than a formal dining room, but that is because I value the importance of exercise.  But this is our home.  It’s not for everyone.

I love it even more that I get to share this home with my husband and our children.  I love our children more than I ever thought I could ever love, as I know all mothers feel.  As soon as these little innocent humans came into my life I was determined to be the best mother I could be.  That of course led me to reading parenting books where I learned so much.  Then, I eagerly applied my learnings to our home and our world as a family.

One of the favorite things that I learned was to never label your children.  I found this very difficult to implement, because we live in a society that labels everything.  I mean everything.  As difficult as it was, I refused to bow to the societal pressures and I never labeled my children…or tried my best not to.

I feel the same way about our lives.  We label ourselves but is it really healthy?  In all honesty does it matter in the grand scheme of things what color our skin is?  Does it matter where we were born?  Or our culture?  Not really, unless you make it important.  That is your ego kicking in to help define who you are as a person.  When you’re really not a person, but a soul.  You are merely a soul inhibiting a body.  Just like I’m a human inhibiting my home.

Do you care what color our house is?  Should you?  Do you care if there is no formal dining room in our home or that I chose to have a home gym in our house?  Again, you should care less.  These are all just personal preferences.  Do we judge people on the color of their home?  Or the rooms that they choose to put in their house.  Do we judge people for their wants and dis-wants in their home?  Why can’t we do the same with our human homes?  We really are just a soul housed in a body, so who cares what color of home they choose to house their soul in?

We have to not only stop labeling children but also look at not labeling people at all.  In any form.  Why do we have to label ourselves spiritually?  It’s all just to put a word on our beliefs.  It’s just a way for your ego to get boosted by thinking their belief is the only way.  There are so many labels.  Agnostic.  Jew.  Christian.  Buddhist.  Hindu.  Atheist.  From Christianity alone you could then sub-label yourself Baptist, Catholic, Pentecostal.  Why?  Is there any need for this?

I would like to see people put the most value in their lives on kindness.  All religions stress the value of kindness but are they kind to people who don’t fit into their label of what their teaching home should look like?  Some do.  Some don’t.  As soon as judgment kicks in kindness is out the front door.  As soon as judgment is in your thoughts your ego has also kicked in hard and that is one thing that I have been trying to eliminate from our home.

I love this quote from A Course in Miracles“What you think you are is a belief to be undone.”  It’s time that we open our homes up and let the breeze clean out the cobwebs that have created over many years of our egos running our homes and let new ideas float in.

I’m a person who absolutely loves Jesus and adores his teachings.  I feel the Universe has a Divine guidance system that is above any of my understanding.  I also love learning about other spiritual masters’ works and I keep my home open to all things spiritual.  I educate myself on it all and don’t close the front door of my home to anything and through this I’m finding if I was made to label my religion it would be the religion of Kindness.

Do you think there is any need of labeling myself?  If God was writing his own parenting book, do you think he would write about the risk of labeling HIS children?  Do you really think God’s ego needs to hear me say, “I am a Christian.”?  No.  God has no ego.  It is the labeled religion that needs to hear you say what they need you to say.  Not God.  God sees what is hanging on the walls of your home…what is in your heart.

Once we undo all these beliefs that have been clogging up our homes we can let kindness take over.  Kindness shouldn’t be a label, or a religion, but a way of life.  Be kind to everyone and stop looking at the color of their home, the rooms they decide to put in their home or whether they live in a bungalow, a split level, split entry, or a two story.  What does it matter?  Who cares about the colors they paint their walls?  Just let them live in the home they want to live in with nothing but kindness as their support beams.  That is what builds a strong home!

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Universe Take the Wheel

I have a 15 and a half year old in the house, who hangs around with a group of guys that are all a year older than him, so guess what he is excited for?  Yep!  Turning 16 and have the ability to get his driver’s permit.  I love that he has this new found freedom of taking off with his buddies to travel around the city, but he is anxious to be the one doing the driving, not being the in the passenger’s seat.

One night, I let him drive home from his high school, which is about three kilometers away from our home.  He was excited to get behind the wheel and have the power of the automobile in his own hands for once.

As he adjusted the seat to get comfortable behind the wheel, I showed him where the windshield wipers were, the high and low beams of the headlights, the signal lights and reminded him of which was the gas and then I had to sit back and relaxed as I gave the responsibility of my vehicle over to my almost 16 year old male brain.

He put the car in drive and off we went.  His foot was a bit heavy on the gas at first, but he quickly adjusted to the pressure that was needed under his foot to make the car ride smooth and not jerky.  I immediately felt comfortable with his ease of learning and quick adjustments he was making as he cruised along.

The first 1500 meters was a success.  He was even driving in winter conditions and was braking in lots of time to take into account the icy roads.  I was very impressed with his natural ability to navigate this vehicle.

Then the first 90 degree turn was upon us and he was exiting the school parking lot merging onto the actual road.  He misjudged the turn, and was quickly catapulting the car straight into an icy snowbank.  Without any anxiousness in my body language, I swiftly reached over and gave the steering wheel a quick jerk and in an instant he was quickly back on course.

After this, he met his first car, and was driving like a pro at the wheel.  We were rapidly coming upon the next 90 degree turn, where there was a car waiting to turn at the stop sign.  I left the turning up to him and this time, he mastered it with ease.  I praised his improvement and he had only about 100 meters to go before we were upon our street.

He turned on the signal light to turn right onto our street and was taking his next 90 degree turn.  He let off of the gas, and slowed down to take the turn like he done it 100 times.  As he made the turn, and thought he was on track to give the car some gas, his foot was once again a bit heavy on the gas and the car went flying at a 45 degree angle across both lanes of the road.  As he miss judged the turn, and the speed of the car was upon him, he quickly applied the brake, and asked if I would drive the last 500 meters to our home.

Of course, I gladly changed places with him, but you know what?  I truly admired his behavior.  Why?  I admired him for taking the risk of driving, and doing so wonderful for his first time.  I also admired his knowledge to know when he had enough, and to ask me to drive the rest of the way.  All while remaining very calm on both ends of the experience.

How many adults are behind their own wheel of life and are driving through this Universe, just like my son? Really, we are all new drivers to this Universe, are we not?  Some of us are too scared to go after what we want in this world, but not my son.  How many of us give our lives too much gas and end up somewhere we shouldn’t be?  I know I have.  How many of us hit the brakes in our lives when we shouldn’t have?  I know I have.  How many of us don’t take a sharp enough turn and turn right into those lurking snowbanks of life that get us stuck where we are?  I know I have.

Our brakes are our fears that hold us back from our divine destiny.  We have to let these fears go.  Our turns are the choices that we make that we probably shouldn’t have taken.  We’ve all made choices that we aren’t proud of, but let this shame and guilt go and learn to forgive yourself.   Luckily for my son, I was calmly sitting in the passenger seat, guiding him and reinforcing his actions the entire way, until he finally had enough and asked me to take the wheel.  Even though he was doing fine, he relaxed and let me take over, and that takes a lot of intelligence.

A Course in Miracles says, “It’s not up to you what you learn, but only whether you learn through joy or through pain.”  My son decided to learn through joy, and not through the pain of driving into a snowbank.  We are all put on this Earth for our souls to learn through this human experience.  It’s up to us whether we want to learn it through the joy of the spiritual world, or whether we want to learn it through the pain of the real world.

Fortunately for all of us, we have the same luxury as my son!  Just like my hand quickly grabbing the steering wheel and in the blink of an eye giving it a quick jerk to help my son get back on course that is what my Universal Passenger does for me.  You can easily say, “Universe, take the wheel” and the higher power in this universe will take over.  Call him God, the Tao, Buddha, the Divine or whatever you are comfortable calling him.  As soon as you put your faith in this Divine power, and know that he is calmly waiting for you in the passenger’s seat to ask him to drive you the rest of the way home, he will.  He will put your life on a cruise control that you never knew was possible.  You never have to take the wheel ever again.  Just sit back, relax, and let what is going to happen– happen.  Life has its divine design, and we just have to figure out how to trust in someone else in the driver’s seat.

This is one life experience that I will always cherish between my son and I.  I love how when he knew he had enough, he asked for help.  That is my job.  That is why I’m here for him.  My wish is that everyone will do the same with our Divine Creator.  He really has everything orchestrated in our lives all for our learning pleasure.  Why try to crash into those snowbanks that are lurking around every corner.  Just let him take the wheel and watch how smooth the drive home is!

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Vibrational Vibes

I might live in a small city in New Brunswick, but we have many things I am very blessed to have in my life.  One of these things is a local physiotherapist who just so happens to also be a longtime friend.  There are many smart people in this world, but she is one I’ve admired for her intelligence since the minute I met her.  Just one of those super smart, in tuned people that I’m drawn towards.

Lately, this beautiful, smart woman who is very talented in her field of healing got interested in the study of people’s vibrations, which just so happens to be a very keen interest of mine own as well.  She went to Toronto to study all about the body’s vibrations and how injuries are usually the case of that area’s vibratory factors being altered.

When she explained to me this new adventure of hers, I was so intrigued!  Coming from a scientific stand point it is proven that all living things have vibrations, and coming from a spiritual angle, they can’t stress this enough.  Now to have one of the smartest people I know gravitating to the study of human vibrations just justified my own beliefs.

My daughter hurt her knee in gymnastics, and that was the universe opening the door for us to go visit my amazing physiotherapist friend.  I could listen to her talk about all that she learned in her seminars about these vibrational stickers that she uses on people for hours.  Her own personal accounts of using the stickers on other patients and their success stories just fascinated me.

Luckily for me, while she was treating my daughter, I had an inflamed lymph node myself, and she started stickering me up like a kindergartener’s reward chart.  Instantly I could feel my vibrations increasing, and actually felt my body moving in circles.  I couldn’t believe the results myself.  The pain was gone.  The effects of the stickers only lasted a few days, but to have this nagging pain dissipated even for a few hours was huge to my mental state.

After about three treatments the pain was gone, and never to return again.  She also did wonders for my daughters knee with these stickers, and I think my daughter is now addicted to them.

I started to get really intrigued with this vibrational education that was opening up before me, and I looked into it even more and was surprise what I learned in a book called “Power Versus Force” by David Hawkins all about everything being energy and how it interacts and affects EVERYTHING…definitely a must read for all!  You can check out what I am going to explain to you at this website if you are further interested: https://www.healyourlife.com/a-clear-map-to-your-spiritual-enlightenment

If you find that you are feeling a lot of guilt or shame in your world, you are at your lowest possible frequency of 20-30!  How many of us let our minds sabotage our worlds with this mental torture?  We let ourselves shame ourselves until we are mentally crippled by these very negative, and the lowest of the vibrational chain.  Shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger, pride are all emotions that are pulling our vibrations down, but we continue to let them rule our lives.  We are littered with this suffering, and why?

I’m sure you can answer what is at the top of the vibrational grid!  Yes, you are right!  Ultimate consciousness, or enlightenment.  Working our way down from here we have peace, joy, love, reason, acceptance, wiliness, neutrality and courage.  All expanded vibrations that keep us in the flow of love and light.

After reading this book, I wanted to express our need to start paying more attention to our daily vibrations and what we are letting into our minds.  Just like my incredible friend who is healing the injured with her vibrational stickers we can change our minds with increasing our own vibrations.

If you’ve read my blogs before, you know I am all about the symbolism in the Bible, and if you’ve ever read Isaiah 61, it is all about the “Good News of Salvation”, which to me could be translated to the “Good News of Becoming Enlightened”.  It’s all about these vibrations that Dr. Hawkins is talking about.  You can take the time to read the chapter if you’d like, but the third and seventh verse is what really pops out to me, Isaiah 61:3 says, “To give to those who mourn in Zion joy and gladness instead of grief, A song of praise instead of sorrow.  They will be like trees that the Lord himself has planted.  They will all do what is right, and God will be praised for what he has done.”  And then Isaiah 61:7, “Your shame and disgrace are ended.  You will live in your own land, and your wealth will be doubled; Your joy will last forever.”

If only you could see the benefits of raising your vibrations and getting out of these low vibrations and replace them with the vibrations of joy and gladness, you would live in your own happy land.  Start singing songs of your blessings, instead of sorrow by focusing on what you have, not what you don’t have.  You are the trees that the Lord has planted, and you can wither up and give up, or you can change the way you look at the world and start using your roots to suck in every positive vibration that is around you.

You don’t have to become enlightened and live at the top of the vibrational universe, but if you can get yourself out of the lower end of the scale, you would be much better off.  In his book, Dr. Hawkins says that Adolph Hitler’s energy measured around a 37 on this vibrational scale that starts at 20.  You have to know that you are a much better person that Hitler, so please start being aware of the vibrations that you are letting into your mind on a daily bases.  Even hourly bases.

There are many ways to raise your vibrations if you are in need of it.  Google it and start implementing them into your life today.  Nobody deserves to be living the life of Hitler.  Nobody!

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Seven Ways to Happy Days

It’s officially over.  Children are back to school and the Christmas holidays are finished for another year.  Some people may say, “Back to the grind.”  Like it or not, we all have to get on with responsibilities, duties and our daunting daily routines.

The only thing that makes this a horrible time of the year is thinking that it is a horrible time of the year.  Being a teacher myself, I am fortunate to share these holidays with my children, and I am very grateful for such an opportunity.  Going back to school for me, however, is a breath of fresh air.  I’m a huge fan of routine, and I believe that as humans we NEED routine!

Why do you think we need routine?  Because it makes our days happier ones.  But why?  When I started to do research on why my body craves routine, I learned that routine takes the guess work out of our days.  We know what to do, when to do it, why we should do it and at what time we have to do it at.  We don’t have to plan a thing.  It is all planned out for us and embedded in our brains.  That is what makes routine so wonderful.  No thinking involved.

It has taken me 44 years to develop my morning routine that makes my days happier.  I thought I would save you years of learning and list seven useful tips on what makes my mornings happier, and hopefully if you start to implement these seven easy things to your mornings, your days will immensely improve.  I will warn you that you have to get up at least an hour earlier than you are right now, but there is a quick fix to this, and that is go to bed an hour earlier.  You need this alone time and time set aside at the beginning of your day to insure nobody disturbs you.

1.  Meditation.

Silence is golden.  As soon as I get up I go to my meditation room where I have a mat on the floor and a lazy boy in the corner and this is where I remain for the next hour of my life.  I do baby pose for eleven minutes first, because I learned during my Kundalini yoga that performing baby pose for eleven minutes is equivalent to four hours of sleep.  Since I’ve been doing this daily I’ve noticed such a difference in my energy level.  To me it a must do.  If I don’t have time to meditate, I do baby pose no matter what.  I meditate while doing the baby pose anyway.

After the baby pose, I then sit in my meditation chair and do my daily meditation.  Sometimes I might meditate for 40 minutes, other days it might be 20 minutes.  This depends on how my mind is that day.  If I only meditate for 20 minutes, this is when I start talking to my inner person.  You know what I mean.  We all have that inner person that we talk to and pass our thoughts by.  I love my inner person.  He really is my favorite part of my morning.

2.  Exercise. 

It doesn’t have to be anything huge or for hours.  I do a few Kundalini yoga stretches, chin-ups and usually a held handstand for a few seconds, just to get my heart upside down and really get the blood flowing around my nervous system.  My routine might take 10 minutes at the most.  I do my chin-ups while walking by chin-up bar at some point in the morning, and my yoga stretches are easy to do with my students in my class if I don’t get them done at home, but you have to get some sort of blood pumping activity in to really get your day off right.

3.  Praying (I pray with my children). 

Every morning, I read my children a Joel Osteen Devotion from his app.  Quick, easy, and to the point with a great lesson and a prayer all included.  It might take 3 minutes each child, but it is my quiet time with them and it gives them a good routine to get into.  I’m trying to instill some of my craziness in them.  One of my children enjoys meditating in the morning, the other in the evening so I let them choose.

4.  Healthy and nutritious breakfast. 

I was never a morning eater, but since I started implementing my “No eating after supper” rule, and being up for an hour before I eat breakfast it usually is about 14 hours since I last ate.  By this time I am ready to get some nutrients into me.

5.   Write in my AppreciationJjournal. 

I do have to admit that this is one thing that I leave to do with my students in my class every morning.  I am usually at my school for 8am and I don’t have to actually start teaching until 8:15.  This gives me time to sit down and write all the things that I am grateful for while my students are writing in their Quick Write scribblers that is part of their morning routine that I developed for my classroom.  It works out perfectly.

6.  Mindfully hug and tell the important people in my life that I love them. 

You might wonder what a Mindful Hug is?  It is a hug where you hug and take three deep breaths in and out while you are mindful of the person you are hugging.  It was something that I read in one of my mindfulness books and start doing with my children.  At first they thought I was whacked…but they are getting used to my craziness now and just play along.

7.  Be happy. 

Just do it.  Be happy.  You have to break free from those negative thoughts and emotions.  We have to move away from our unhappy stories.  The Pitty Party is over!  There is nothing in the moment you can do about what you feel, you just have to accept that that is how you feel.  I love Eckhart Tolle’s book, “A New Earth Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose”  This is one quote that I wanted to share with you about one of his unhappy patients.  He asked them, “Can you see that your unhappiness about being unhappy is just another layer of unhappiness?”  He continues to ask, “If you don’t mind being unhappy, what happens to the unhappiness?”

If you read this blog to find happiness because you are unhappy, read Eckhart’s words over and over until you totally understand them.  In all reality to be happy is just acceptance of what you are feeling in the present moment, and not to dwell on it.  If you are unhappy, just realize you are unhappy.  Don’t let your body feed off it.  Eckhart explains that once you stop identifying with the feeling, the old painful emotion that is alive in you, if you don’t resist it, then it can’t control your thinking.

I love being happy, and I want all the world to experience true happiness and freedom from pain.  This is just part of my daily routine that I’ve developed over my many years on my spiritual walk.  Everyone’s walk is different, and everyone has to develop their own morning routine that makes them happy.  Just remember that routine is a must.  Your brain doesn’t have to think.  It’s just automatic.  Also remember that the morning is the best time to have alone time for yourself.  Just like Eckhart Tolle is saying…let go of resistance and true happiness will find you no matter what.

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