To Do or Not To Do!

With summer right around the corner, how many of you are a bit overwhelmed with everything that needs to get done in your life in such a few short weeks?  Lawns to be raked.  Winter debris to be picked up.  Flower beds that need cleaning.  Flower and vegetable gardens to be planted.  Pools to be started up.  Lawn furniture brought out.  Decks to be stained.  Windows to be washed.  House cleaning to finish.  For such an incredible season, it comes with a ton of work and many people get stressed over getting it all done.

It’s hard for me to get all these chores finished, since I have very active children.  I work full time, coach gymnastics six days a week, and now baseball season is started up full force, and every weekend I am either at the local field volunteering to help in the press box, or on the road for an away game.  Not to mention the normal weekend to weekend events that pop up; Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, niece’s preschool graduation, former gymnasts’ graduation parties, friends’ and family members’ birthday parties.  The list is never ending.

I have no time to do my day to day housework, so most days this “Summer To-Do” list has been the last thing on my mind.  Never the less, it keeps piling up and staring me in the face every time I look out the windows or back into my driveway at the end of my busy days.  We all have choices with what to do with our days.  I don’t have to coach gymnastics this much, but I choose to.  I don’t have to go to my son’s baseball games, but I choose to.  Why?  Because family is my first priority as it is with many people.  I only have my children for another four years and then they will all be away at university or on an adventure of their choice.

Do I feel frustrated that this “To-Do” list isn’t getting done?  When I was younger and more egocentric in my thinking, definitely.  Now as I age and learning to let go of this debilitating thing called my ego, I have a different way of thinking about things.  I realize that I make the choices in my life to make me happy.  Family makes me happy.  My friends make me happy.  Coaching makes me happy.  Baseball makes me happy.  That is what I focus my energy on.  Not that having a well landscaped yard and an outdoor living space doesn’t make me happy, but those things can wait.  They will get done when the universe gives me time to get these things done.  I don’t need to stress over it.

The same goes for anything in your life.  We all have choices and we have to let our egos stop brainwashing us into thinking and feeling we have to do certain things in our lives.  You have to make the choices that make you happy.  The ego doesn’t want you to be happy, it wants you to make everyone else happy.  It wants you to think if only you had certain things finished you’d be happy.  Or if you had that certain item you’d be happy.  It wants you to put on a front for everyone to think that you have it all together, and it doesn’t care what it does to your soul in the meantime.  It just wants you to look good in everyone else’s eyes.  But where does that leave you?  Where does that leave your true self?  The most precious part of you.  Your soul.  It’s time to free yourself of this demon called your ego and start pampering your soul with all the joys of summertime.

I love A Course in Miracles and it reminds us, “The world is only in the mind of its maker. Do not believe it is outside of yourself.”

As summer approaches, remember that your world is only in your own mind.  Make your world a happy one during next few, sweet months of sunshine.  If you are thinking of all the stuff you have to get done around the house make a new sort of “To-Do” list.  A “Summer To-Do for Me” list!  Take this summer and focus on all the stuff that makes you happy.  The people that make you happy.  The places that make you happy.  The activities that make you happy.  If you don’t make you happy, I promise, nobody else will.  Remember, “Seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world.” (A Course in Miracles)

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