Emotional Eruptions

I have thoroughly enjoyed all the stages of my children’s development, but I am thinking the teenage stage is probably one of my favorite.  I love how they think they know more than their elders, make fun of our dispositions and actions, and most of all, I think it is funny how they are getting used to the adult life.

My beautiful daughter is learning how important it is to take good care of your face to prevent any acne from surfacing from her pores.  She is now on a fifteen minute routine that she performs morning and night to ensure her face remains clean, oil and blemish free.

I think it is fantastic that she devotes this time to the prevention of these nasty buggers.  We all know that pimples are excess oil, dead skin cells and bacteria that get overloaded in our pores and cause this hard, inflamed part on our skin.  It actually comes from the Greek word that means “skin eruption”.  Funny part of the puzzle I think!

As I listen to her perform this lengthy routine every day, it makes me think about the importance of our own emotional health.  We really should be doing the same with our emotional well-being as my daughter is doing with her facial well-being.  She is taking a half hour out of her day to prevent these “skin eruptions” but so many of us should really be taking thirty minutes out of our day to prevent “emotional eruptions”.

Why do we worry about what is on the surface of our bodies, but not what’s going on deep inside of our souls?  Our mental pimples come from the dirty bacteria of our life experiences, the oil of bitterness and dead dream-cells that get plugged up in our minds and cause hard, inflamed parts in our souls.  Emotional pimples so to speak.  They fester in our thoughts and make emotional eruptions just like on our skin’s surface.

I’m sure my daughter isn’t the only one that spends time on making sure her face is acne-free.  Geeze, most women are definitely guilty of this!  Spending tons of their daily time on what their face looks like.  Make-up application isn’t a speedy affair and most woman spend tons of time making sure all their blemishes and imperfections are perfectly hidden under all that foundation, highlighter, blush, mascara, etc.  Meanwhile, their insides are totally falling apart.  They are ready to explode or take a mental breakdown, but they still look good on the surface.

If we spend the time on what our face looks like, shouldn’t it be more important to focus on our emotional pores?  Our emotional imperfections?  If we don’t want things to plug our emotional pores, then we really have to take the time to do the work that is needed to make sure we don’t have emotional eruptions either.

If you have time in your day to spend on pampering your face, feet, hands and even eyelashes, you surely can find time to pamper your soul.  Even if it is just 20 minutes a day to sit and meditate.  You can do a guided meditation, or sit in silence.  The important part is that you devote time to something incredibly more valuable than your face, your mental health!

The excuse, “I don’t have time” doesn’t fly with me.  We all have choices and if you choose to spend hours on making sure your outward appearance is great for all the world to see, than you have time to work on your inner appearance.  In all reality, this is what makes a person attractive, not what they look like on the outside!

Try multitasking.  Use your time wisely.  While you are in the shower, listen to something spiritual that you find touches your soul, or that educates you on the importance of meditation.  While you are putting on your face in the morning and taking it off at night, again, play an audiobook that will teach you the importance of pampering your inner appearance.  This is actually the part of you that people will eventually find the most attractive anyway!

I love the Buddha quote that says, “You cannot always control what goes on outside, but you can always control what goes on inside.”  My daughter can help control her skin eruptions to a certain extent if she spends the time nursing this area of her face, but we can always control our emotional eruptions if we spend time fostering our insides.  I recommend everyone read “Conquest of the Mind” by one of my favorite authors, Eknath Easwaran!  This book will help you take charge of your thoughts and reshape your life, if you are ready to put energy into this part of yourself.

It is time for everyone to realize that their inner health and well-being is more important than their outer appearances.  Spend your valuable time cleaning up the inner you.  I can’t stress the importance of this part of yourself.  Happiness is always found on the inside, not on the outside, so pamper that inner you to give you the happiness you deserve!  Nobody wants Emotional Eruptions, just like nobody wants pimples all over their face.  Clean up yours today!

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