Food for Thought

Do you know how many strange looks I get when I say the four words, “I don’t eat sugar”?  People have a variety of reactions.  Some look at me with remorse as if I just told them I lost my dog.  Others look at me with total bewilderment wondering why I would ever make a lifestyle choice like that.  Then I have those who just come right out and ask me the question that everyone is thinking, “Are you wacked?”

I have to admit that giving up sugar was a great personal triumph for me.  I never thought I could do it.  One of the hardest part was the people surrounding me that couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t want to put such a chemical in my body.  Why I would deprive myself of such a joy in this life.  Judgement was and still remains the worst part.  It is socially acceptable to eat sugar.  If it was cocaine that I was giving up society would be totally understanding and supportive because doing that particular drug is not accepted in society.  It’s totally frowned upon. Giving up sugar, on the other hand, is totally judged and talked about by certain circles of people.

There are many temptations in life that are not socially frowned upon but are still bad for us.  Geeze, our government legalized marijuana but banned chocolate milk from the school system.  Even myself who is very open-minded and a huge promoter of limiting sugar intake sees that maybe we could reevaluate some of priorities here.  However, that is just my perception on these matters.  I think we all should have free-will no matter what the topic.

We also have things that are socially unacceptable but really don’t have that big of an impact in our world like social etiquette in different cultures.  If I was born in the East into an Indian Hindu family it is considered proper Indian etiquette to eat with your hands as this is how the majority of the Indian people eat in the East. It is traditional and part of the Indian culture.  Once they come to the West, they form to our culture and change their patterns of eating…but which one is right?  It all depends on what you want to value.  In all reality neither of them are right or wrong.  They are all just a perception.

As a society we have to let go of all this judgement and just let people live.  If they want to order chocolate milk at school, let them.  If they want to enjoy the health benefits of marijuana, let them.  If they don’t want to put sugar in their body, just let them be.  Who cares if people want to eat with their hands, chop sticks or a fork and knife.

I love when I am in the staff room with my fellow teachers.  I have multiple generations in one room with males and females alike.  Some are on the way to retirement and some are just starting on their working journey which gives us a wide variety of opinions.  When I bring up my next hair-brained idea, like fasting for 3 days, they all chime in their thoughts and share their concerns.  Instead of just supporting and acceptance, they all have a thought or perception on what I should be doing. I adore them all but they are just one example of how society without meaning harm is very judgemental.

Whether it is fasting for three days, giving up sugar, not eating meat, the way you spend your money, what substances you put in your body or relationship issues, everyone is going to have their opinion on how you run your life.  Their own judgements on what you should do, is really just their own issues about that issue.  I love Dr. Wayne Dyer and one of my favorite quotes of his is, “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” 

We have to learn to just realize other people’s perceptions are their own and have no reflection on you.  Just do what makes you happy and let others do what makes them happy.  We are all on our own journeys in this life, and we should respect this in everyone we meet.  Hands, chop-sticks, fork…who cares!!!!


Leave the Leaves

I adore this time of the year.  The dazzling landscapes of all the breathtaking colors that tickle my soul.  Social media is littered with picture upon picture of families posing with these incredible backdrops.  It truly is a remarkable time of the year.  All the changes from the summer are actually refreshing.

My property is scattered with maple trees, and their vibrant red leaves pop in the contrast to all the other colors of the season.  I love when a single, bright red leaf lay solo on the walkway, it seems so endearing for some reason.  It left its secure tree and fell all by itself to this landing area.  Nobody helped it.  Nobody controlled its journey to the ground, it just ended up where it is supposed to end up.  The lone leaf waiting to see what is in store now that they left the security of their home tree.

Will it stay on my walkway for the rest of its journey?  Probably not.  It will end up being swept up by the wind and maybe find its final destination propped up against an oak tree in the forest, or maybe its final destination is in the river to float to another city.  Where it finally ends up is not for us to say, predict, or even know.  It is up to the journey of that particular leaf.  A tree just leaves its leaves in the hands of the universe and trusts that what happens is what should happen.

We all could learn from the journey of these leaves.  We could all realize that we have no real control over our journey.  We may think we have control, but really, that is just our egos feeling the need to think that we have control.  In all reality, what is going to happen to us is going to happen to us.  We can make wise choices and make our journey more pleasant, but we all have to take our own journey that is already predetermined for us.

How many of us look back on life after something that we tried to control, but it didn’t work out the way we tried to force it to go and realize that that was the best thing that could have ever happened to us?  As if it was supposed to happen.  We all can see how life plays out years later, but for some reason we have to try and strangle the life out of our own lives trying to make sure everything plays out the way our ego thinks it should.  It is our egos that can’t just trust that the universe has the best plan.

Instead of letting the winds of life take us where we should, we plaster our present lives with worry and try to figure life out to the micro-level.  This robs us of enjoying our present because we are so preoccupied with might arise or occur that our bodies become sick with worry.  Our need to control overtakes the real joys of our lives.  Our egos tend to do this.  It is obsessed with finding a way to control and problem-solve situations that we dream up in our worlds that we think need our control.  We have to be like nature and just leave the leaves.

Do you think this leaf is laying on my walkway wishing that it was still attached to that tree?  Do you think it is worried about all the poor choices it made while it was a green leaf?  Do you think that leaf is overanalyzing a relationship that went wrong?  Is that leaf devastated that they are alone on the sidewalk?  No, that leaf is letting nature take its course and leaving their past behind them, not worried about the future, just enjoying the place where it is laying in the now.

We have to start training out minds to be this way too.  Enjoying the present.  Not letting our egos strike our minds with worry of what was or what could have been.  Just leave the leaves!  I love the book “Take me to Truth, Undoing the Ego” by Nouk Sanchez and Tomas Vieira and recommend it to anyone who is determined to tame their egos.  Chapter Seven is my favorite chapter for helping undo the ego and I want to share this quote: “The truth is that right at this very moment, problems or not, we are all right.  If we keep our focus acutely in the present moment, undefiled by ego thoughts of tomorrow or last week, we realize that we are not our problems or our life stories.  They just go on regardless.  In fact, we have no problems or needs at all in the now.  There is great Peace to be had in this place of Grace.”

We have to stop creating the problems in our world, and let the worry that ego creates blow out of our world with the winds of universe.  We have to stop thinking we can control where our leaves blow.  We have to stay in the now and just relax wherever we have been placed in this grand universal design.  Just leave the leaves.  Let life blow you were you should be.  Let your life tumble where it is directed to go.  Let all worries go and undo your ego and see how your life will change like the leaves this fall.  More beautiful than you could ever imagine!


Internal Delete Button

Social media is a great thing, but it can also be a real pain.  There are so many people who hide behind their smart phones, or keyboard and monitor and become very brave to type things and say things that they wouldn’t usually.  People with built up negative energy thrive on these sites because somewhere in Social Media Land will be another very negative person just waiting to join in on the other person’s pity party.  I just have to shake my head and send these poor individuals love and positive vibes.

We have a restaurant and its incredible how cruel some people can be on the comments on our social media pages.  My husband and I sometimes just shake our heads at the comments.  Some people must have such built up anger and bitterness inside of them if all it takes is a longer wait than promised, or a stranger made a mistake making your food, for them to blow their fuse, then all I can encourage is sending these people love.  If this makes or breaks your day and makes a person so angry that they resort to unleashing their anger and frustrations on a Facebook page, these people need more than me sending them love.  They really need to find a different way to channel their energy.

One particular lost soul actually made two negative comments within hours on just two regular posts.  Good thing for the delete button.  I quickly deleted these negative comments and went on with my day.  I could be judgmental, and get angry or upset, but I don’t.  I know that we can’t give what we don’t have inside of us to give.  I am constantly trying to learn how to make my life and the people’s lives around me better.  I try to avoid this exhibited behavior at all cost.  That’s why I love the delete button so much.  I don’t have to participate in this vengeful behavior or even look at it.  I have my own karmic path to travel, and I don’t want to get messed up on anyone else’s path.

I know I’ve mentioned the book “Power Verses Force” written by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D., and his great Map of Consciousness before I’m previous blogs. This has all the emotions and their level on the vibrational scale.  Of course, all the negative emotions like scorn, hate, craving, anxiety, regret, despair, blame and humiliation being in the bottom of his chart.  Well, Dr. Joe Dispenza, author of “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself” has a chart that is called, “Elevated Emotions Vs. Limited Emotions”.  He further categorize these emotions which he calls “Survival Emotions” or “Selfish Emotions” which include: doubt, fear, anger, insecurity, worry, anxiety, judgment, competition, hostility, sadness, guilt, shame, depression, and lust.  These are all emotions that are holding us back as human beings.  They are slowly killing us and like his book suggests, we really have to break this habit of being ourselves!  Break ourselves free of these selfish emotions and start to control our minds so we can live a totally fulfilled life.

I recommend both of these books to anyone who is ready to start changing themselves internally.  You have to start changing yourself internally before you are ever going to see any changes externally.  It is the same with any part of our lives.  So many people are not happy with their bodies and they are all looking for that secret diet pill, the special diet, or an excellent workout regime that will promise fast results to the body of our dreams.  If only people would realize that once you’re are happy on the inside, the outside won’t matter any longer and it literally will take care of itself.  You will love yourself just the way you’re are made.

This unhappiness with your body image is just one of many ways that we can be unhappy with our lives.  Other forms of unhappiness comes from marriages, children, financial situations, health problems, our jobs, and the list goes on.  The same things holds true.  If you can find ways to delete the negative internal dialogue of yourself, all the external factors will change.  Next time you feel these negative emotions rising inside of you, press your delete button and have them disappear from your internal monitor system.  As Dr. Dispenza says, “To truly change is to begin to think and act differently in the same circumstances in your life.”

I’m going to circle around to another one of my favorite books written by Don Miguel Ruiz called “The Four Agreements”.  The second agreement in his book is, “Don’t take anything personally”, and that is exactly what we have to remember when people are striking out on social media or anywhere else in our lives.  We can’t strike back with negative emotions that they are typing us up because then we are letting our internal systems lower to their levels.  Just press the delete button again and keep your internal system flying with these other high vibrations such as, gratitude, love, joy, inspiration, peace, wholeness, trust, knowingness, presence and empowerment.  Then you will see your life change for the better.

I know it happens to everyone all the time.  People are constantly reviewing others whether it is on a social media site or just in life in general.  Instead of joining their social media or life’s pity party, press the delete button, don’t take it personal and send the person love.  As Dr. Dispenza also says, “If you can’t control your mind, everything and everyone else will.”

Take control of your emotions and internally strive to have a constant high level vibration ignited on the inside of you and watch your external circumstances change.  Do what I do with the negative comments that come to our Facebook page… press delete and keep loving life!