Squirrely Happiness?

I love childhood memories, and the way it shapes you into who you eventually are!  I’ve always loved feeding the birds and throwing out scraps for them since I was young and my grandmother would have a pot of scraps every day to throw out.  It was part of my childhood growing up and it is something that I continued as I moved onto my own independent routine.

My husband, however, who never grew up this way—or in the country—has a very hard time with me feeding the wild life.  It wasn’t part of his upbringing and he is not a fan of critters.  We’ve had a mouse in our garage before, and when it was caught in the trap he waits for me to dispose of the dead body.  He just can’t handle wildlife of any sort—dead or alive.

Daily, I feed the wildlife and love watching what is attracted to the food, and who claims what.  We have the biggest fattest crow that comes.  I never noticed what a beautiful animal they really were until I saw them very up close.  I was even informed by my son that there was a fox on our back patio.  I was away that day and didn’t get to feast my eyes on such a wonderful animal, but definitely heard from both of the males in my household that we are not having a wildlife sanctuary in our back yard.  Like I listen!

We also have lots of squirrels, which are my favorite!  One baby squirrel is now the love of my life and I adore watching him.  He’s so tiny, and has so much growing to do, but can he ever take the food and store it away somewhere.  He will find a heel of a bread and just gnaw away at it until it is small enough to fit in his stubby, little outstretched arms.  Then he will hold the bread with his little fingers wrapped tightly around it and will continue to nibble around the edges until it is small enough to carry in his mouth.  Finally, he will quickly scurry with this huge piece of bread, that is actually bigger than him, somewhere into the forest.

As I watch this little creature venturing on his own at such a tiny size, fending for himself, running here and there making sure nobody takes his huge piece of bread it makes me think of how humans doing the exact same thing!  Do we sometimes take on more than we can chew?  Do we try to be the little squirrel who can’t even pick up the piece of bread but are determined that we are going to make that piece of bread our own, no matter what we have to put ourselves, or our families through in order to do it?  Are we going through life a little squirrely thinking it will make us happy?

How many of us are convinced we have super powers and try to pack our lives full from sunrise to sunset?  Most of us in today’s society do, and for what?  Is there a reward at the end of the day if we have taken our children to two birthday parties, three different sporting events, went to work for a bit, made a four course meal, and spring cleaned, then went to an adult function all evening all on our day off?  No, there isn’t.  The only reward we get is realizing that we bit off more than we can chew and our health suffers from it.  Instead of being rejuvenated at the end of our weekend, we can’t wait to get back to work for a break.

You might not realize it at the time, but eventually your body will slowly shut down.  The fatigue and emotional strain will bring on lots of different kinds of aliments.  Science is proving this, but the human egos keep trying to think they are unaffected by this stress.

You might let your ego persuade you that you HAVE to do all these things on your day off, because the ego wants you to think that you are just THAT important and the life of your family would not be worth living if it wasn’t for you micromanaging every minute of their day.  Well, that is just totally your ego talking.  You have to learn to determine what is important and what isn’t.  Our bodies can’t afford the price of this crazy lifestyle no matter how attractive it might be to your ego.

I know you are thinking, “Well, how do I slow down when I have so many responsibilities?”  This is definitely not going to be easy.  You are dealing with deeply imbedded behavior patterns that were probably implanted when you were a child and your parents did the same thing for you.  Just because that is how you were raised doesn’t make it right.  You have to make the changes for yourself and your own children so that they stop this cycle of running ragged and biting off more than they can chew.

You have to make a conscious decision to make this lifestyle change.  You have to decide that you want a different way of life.  You have to choose to let your ego stop running your household, and let your true self take over.  When we let our ego constantly make us rush, and trying to squeezing every minute of daylight we are letting it rob ourselves of our own precious vitality.  When we let go of our ego and are calm and rested with our priorities in line, we glow of strength and beauty.

Instead of being like my little baby squirrel and biting of more than you can chew, try to start feeding your soul every morning with some sort of routine to calm your ego for the day.  Sit in silence and meditate.  Read a spiritual text that talks to you.  If you start your day off squirrely, your whole day will go squirrely, but if you start your day off relaxed and tapped into your true self, your day will follow suit.

Continue your day in this manner.  Slow down at work.  Remember to ask yourself, is this important or am I just doing it to boost my ego?  At meal times, take the time to enjoy your food.  Relax over your meal.  Try to stop multi-tasking while you eat.  Your body needs that time to energize itself.  Determine what is important to be doing in your free time and don’t be scared to ask people for help.

Let go of that squirrely ego that is torturing your days.  Relax and enjoy this trip called life, and don’t let it stress you out!  As Buddha once said, “Happy are those who have overcome their egos; happy are those who have attained peace; happy are those who have found the Truth.”  Find your happiness and peace today!

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Top 10 Wise Old Men

I have a weird confession to make.  For some strange reason, I absolutely love old men!  I know it sounds bizarre, but I totally understand where it has stemmed from.  I had the cutest grandfather in the entire universe!  Ever since I was born, I was so in love with this man. He had the softest disposition, yet put on a hard-core façade.  Deep down, however, I knew he was a teddy bear with a huge heart.

He only had a grade three education.  Born in 1911 he didn’t have the opportunities that we have today, and he decided to quit school and start making money for his family.  Even though he only had a grade three education, this man was a very wise man, and I could sit and listen to him for hours.  I loved how deep he was and how life’s troubles were never troubles to him.  He felt that we had to go through suffering to be better people, and this is something that I admired about him.  He lived through stomach cancer and other ailments that just mystified me, yet, never did I ever hear him complain of his upsets.

It wasn’t until lately that I really noticed how my crazy attraction to these wise old men was, and how I continued this obsession with my grandfather right into my 40s which is decades after his passing.  All I seem to read and watch are books, documentaries or YouTube channels about old men and their wisdom.  I have my top 10 list for sure, which I am pleased to share with you.

My favorite old man that I am obsessed with would have to be Emanuel Swedenborg.  This man was fascinating and has changed my life as a person and a Christian!  Through his spiritual experiences, or Near Death Experiences he has brought back tons of information to make the Bible make sense.  Born in Stockholm, Sweden, in 1688 this man was a total genius.  Check him out online at Swedenborg Foundation or their YouTube channel Off the Left Eye.  His teachings are eye-opening to say the least.  You can download his books for free off his website, so why not give it a read?

Secondly, a man who I hold dear to my heart who passed away three years ago is Dr. Wayne Dyer.  I love him and his teachings!  He is really the man who introduced me to many of the other old wise men that I am in love with!  Through Wayne’s love for spiritual teachings he exposed me to many of my favorite old men.

Which leads me to my third absolute favorite old man of all time, Lao Tzu!  This ancient Chinese philosopher, born in the 5th-6th century BCE wrote the Tao Te Ching.  This man was simply brilliant!  A true mystique.  I recommend you reading the Tao.  It’s only 81 verses of pure genius that is still important to apply to our lives today.  Also, a great read is Dr. Dyer’s book on “Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life:  Living the Wisdom of the Tao.”  I actually just order it today to give to a friend of mine.  One of my must-have books in any library!

Another recommendation from Wayne, who is also an incredible wise old man is Peter Deunov, a Bulgarian philosopher born in 1864 who was an inspired teacher of the Perennial Wisdom.  He is also the man that Albert Einstein said this about, “The whole world bows down before me; I bow down before the Master Peter Deunov.”  That is how amazing this man is!  Definitely a man worth looking into if you enjoy this kind of teachings.

Also referred for me to read from Dr. Dyer was Saint Germain and the teachings from Guy Ballard who received Saint Germain’s teachings while climbing a mountain in California.  He has a series of books that are must-reads!

I can’t forget Sadhguru.  Number six on my list, this man’s real name is Jaggi Vasudev, but he now goes by Sadhguru.  Finally a man who is still alive! Born in 1957 he is probably the youngest of my favorite old men.  I love to watch him on Youtube.  He’s entertaining and uplifting.  His spiritual talks hit home with me, and I recommend you giving him some of your attention if you have the time.

My seventh favorite wise old man is Deepak Chopra.  Born in 1947 in New Deli, India, this man is brilliant in his field.  I’m sure you’ve heard of him, since him and Oprah are very close and have done many programs together on her Soul Sunday show.  If you don’t know who he is, check him out on You Tube, or I recommend his book, “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success”.  This is a book I keep on my bedside table to read a bit daily!

Lately, I’ve become obsessed with the Pakistani, Yogi Bhajan who is number eight on my list.  Born in 1929, this was the man that brought Kundalini Yoga to the Western world.  If you haven’t tried Kundalini yoga, I highly recommend it.  It’s the most incredible exercise I have ever participated in, and I have tried many things in my time.  It just totally connects my mind, body and spirit in a way that is indescribable for worlds.  It is definitely the most out-there activity I’ve ever done, but the final product is amazing.

Another new favorite, who is ranked number nine on my list, is a native of Cuba, born in 1949, Alberto Villoldo.  I’m now on book number three of his, and what has drawn me to him is his knowledge in the Shamanic world.  I am very interested in the Shaman’s way of life and how they are so in touch with nature and their souls.  His books combines ancient Shamanic wisdom teachings with cutting-edge practices in nutrition, biology and neuroscience.  This man lived in the Andes and the Amazon for 25 years, experiencing and learning the way of the Shamans.  He is definitely worth checking out!

Last but not least on my list of favorite old men is Thich Nhat Hanh.  Born in 1929, this 91 year old Vietnam Buddhist monk is still strong in his field of teaching and is a man that everyone must be introduced to.  He has written over 100 books and even though I’ve only read 10 of the 100, I will read them all as part of my Bucket List.  He is more than intriguing and wiser than anyone can imagine.

I know that was my top ten men, but I can’t leave out the 13th century Persian poet, Rumi.  I love his poetry!  He has many great pieces, but the favorite quote of all time would have to be, “I looked in temples, churches, and mosques. But I found the Divine within my heart.”  This sums up my feelings to a tea.  Check out his work too, I promise he will touch your soul.

Hopefully this list of my top 11 wise old men can help guide you into some reading material to help you kick off your Spring reading material.  If loving my grandfather was the stepping stone for leading me to admire these incredible eleven men, then I think my obsession with old men have been beneficial for my life.  Without them I might be a lost soul, but through their teaching, I feel I’m a better person.  If I can inspire one person to open their minds up to any of these wise men’s work, I will feel accomplished.  Take time today to Google just one of them.  I promise you won’t be disappointed!

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Love Your Kingdom

I love how time changes everything.  Most importantly, I love how time has changed me!  I look back on the person I was, and I am so glad that I am no longer that person.  I love how much I have grown, and matured.  My biggest life accomplishment is how I finally learned to love myself.

People would say, you cannot love someone else until you truly love yourself, and I thought that I did love myself.  But looking back on my life, I didn’t even as much as like myself.  People who love themselves aren’t critical of other people.  They don’t find faults in others.  They just love others like they would want to be loved because they realize that we are all one.

It took me a while to understand and digest all that goes along with this concept.  It wasn’t an instant connection for me.  It was a gradual shift in my life.  First, I started spending time with myself.  Learning to connect with myself.  I was portraying to love myself, but I didn’t like being alone.  If you don’t enjoy a person’s company doesn’t that indicate that you may not like that person?  Probably.  I finally clued into this and started spending more alone time with myself and low-and-behold, I did start to enjoy my own company.

Years later, I really crave my alone time and need it.  Some days, I would rather just be by myself to have my internal dialogue with myself.  Now, I really love hanging out with me.

Step two on this road to self-love was learning that I had to remove all negativity from my life.  The Law of Attraction really does exist, and every negative thought that we have affects our lives.  I had to stop being so critical of myself.  Forgive myself for my silly mistakes that I had made over my life and realize that I can’t go back in time, but I can change my future.  Changing this future meant giving up thoughts and beliefs that I was a bad person.  It meant that when I started being negative about something, I had to quickly change it and flood it out with positive thoughts instead.  This is a trained response and takes time to master.

Finally, I just clued in to this last tip on how to truly love yourself while I was studying 2 Samuel.  This chapter is about King David and how he was defending his kingdom and creating his dynasty.  In chapter 10, as I was reading that he was being attacked from the front and the back and that was when it finally all fell together in my brain.  We are all kingdoms.  Our bodies and minds are kingdoms.  These kingdoms area constantly under attack from all directions by negative thoughts that we bring on ourselves.

Thoughts of guilt, shame, envy, jealousy, anger, fear, anxiety and panic are all attacking us all the time, every day, but we have to fight for our kingdom like the wise King David did.  He was the greatest King of the bible, even though he committed adultery and tried to have his lover’s husband murdered, he repented and then rose his kingdom to great victories.

We are all models of King David.  Well, you might not have plotted to kill anyone, or had an affair on your spouse, but we all sin and do crazy things in this life that we regret.  You can’t let the guilt and shame of your past life bring you down.  Just like myself.  I’ve done some horrible things to my kingdom that I wish I could change, but I can’t.  I have to focus on fixing my kingdom from the ground up, or the inside out.

Even though David had turmoil in his life, especially after his affair and murder plans, he still enjoyed a very blessed life.  He had to go through these tragic events to become all that he was created to be.  He needed to hit bottom before he could rise his kingdom into the great place of victory.

We have to start thinking of our body, mind and soul as our own personal kingdom that our Creator has blessed us with and trusted us to become great rulers over.  We have to start fighting for it all.  It’s your choice what you do with your own personal kingdom that you’ve been given to reign over.  You can give into the attacks of the enemy of negativity and surrender to a life that we don’t want to live, or you can start using the power within each and every one of us to start fighting back with your own internal army to a victory like no other.

After studying this book of the Bible, I feel 2 Samuel 7:16 really sums it up, “Your house and your kingdom shall endure before Me forever; your throne shall be established forever.”

Your kingdom, or your soul, will last forever, but what you do with this kingdom is totally in your reigning hands.  King David was so incredible because he took his job as ruler of his kingdom very seriously, and listened to what God put in his heart.  We all have the same repentant, loving hearts as King David, but we have to demonstrate genuine sorrow, and then move on.  We can’t look back on past regrets.  We have to keep battling forward until the army of negativity wave their white flag.

Once you see this white flag, you know the victory of truly loving yourself and the kingdom inside of you is yours.  As soon as those negative emotions start retreating, your life will totally change around.  David didn’t become this great King overnight.  It was a long road, as was my journey of self-love.  Day by day, you will see little victories, and it is these little victories that eventually have you ruling the throne of your kingdom with skill and precision, just like the great King David!

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Anchor of the Universe

I have loved being a parent since they laid my first born son into my arms at the hospital almost 16 years ago.  It was a change that happened deep inside of me.  I totally became a new person on this day.  Since that hot day in July, I have made my children my life, and put them in front of myself in every manner.  I would sacrifice my life for my children and actually some days I feel like I owe them my life!  If it wasn’t for them, I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

It’s funny how when they first came into my life I read parenting book after parenting book trying to make sure I was serving them to the highest of my ability.  I wanted to teach them to become all that they were created to be, but somehow, they turned this intent totally around and now they are teaching me to be all I’ve been created to be.  They are showing me how to become a better person.  They are forcing me to keep an open mind and change my views and ways.

Now that my oldest is almost 16, I find myself nostalgic and reflecting on how we have all grown over this period of time.  The best thing happened to our family the other day.  My son made a very poor choice at school and had to make an incredibly uncomfortable phone call to me.  I could tell in the tone of his voice that he was devastated and trying to keep his emotions under control.

As he explained his situation and his disappointment in himself, I was put into an opportunity to implement my latest obsession…living by the Tao Te Ching.  That morning, I had been chatting with a friend about their “perceived” lazy daughter.  I had explained to them that laziness is just a perception and went on to teach them my favorite verse of the Tao Te Ching.  Verse 37 says, “The Tao does nothing, but leaves nothing undone.  If powerful men could center themselves in it, the whole world would be transformed by itself, in its natural rhythms.  When life is simple, pretenses fall away; our essential nature shine through.  By not wanting, there is calm and the world will straighten itself.  When there is silence, one finds the anchor of the universe within oneself.”

The most important part of this entire verse is the first sentence.  Do nothing and nothing gets left undone.  I was explaining to my friend to just let their child be, and watch how she will just blossom into the amazing creature that she really is.  But how many parents really want to try and control their children and create them into what they THINK they should be.

Right after this chat with my friend, I got my own test of practice-what-you-preach phone call from my incredible son.  A test to see what would I do in this situation?  How would I react when the shoe was on the other foot?  A situation that I thought I would never be faced with was starring me straight at me, waiting for my reaction.  Could I do nothing, and let the universe make sure nothing gets left undone?

To my surprise, I did just that.  A total calm came over me and I let my son just get out his feelings and reminded him of all the spiritual teachings that I’ve learned and been teaching him over the last four years.  I told him to stay in the now, he couldn’t change the past, but he could change how he reacted to this situation and his future.  We did a mindful hug over the phone to ensure him that I trusted he’d do all the right things to fix the unfortunate event to the best of his ability.  I reminded him that everything happens for a reason and something wonderful always comes out of our pain.

I left all punishment in his own hands and put the responsibility-ball in his court to see how he thought the situation should be dealt with.  Would he knock it out of the park, or strike out?  I tried my best to create no resistance in this situation and just let the universe take control.  I held strong to the last part of this verse, “By not wanting, there is a calm, and the world will straighten itself.”

After this was all over, and the waves from that day had settled, I did explain to my son how incredibly proud of him I was.  His choices on how he handled the entire situation was very mature and wise.  From apologizing to the people he wronged without my guidance or influence, how he took full responsibility for his own actions, to how his own self-punishment was exactly what he needed.  He took the appropriate steps he should have and he actually did anchor himself the universe that is found within him.  He was connected to the Tao without even realizing it…as we all are.  His true nature shone through in this trying time.  I witness it with my own eyes!

I think we all should try and change the way we think about power and success that has been forced into our thinking by this over-egoed society we live in.  We have to remind ourselves that we don’t have to be the best at everything, or out do others.  We don’t have to make ever thing perfect in our lives.  We are all going to make mistakes, but we can’t beat ourselves up.  We have to deal with the situation, learn from it and move forward.  Let nature take its course.

As parents, spouses, leaders, teachers and friends, sometimes we have to learn to just bite our tongues, extinguish our emotions, and let go of all control.  Just let what has to happen—happen.  We can fight the Tao or just give into it.  In all reality, this makes life much simpler.  Controlling things is what brings unneeded stress in our lives that all of us seem so desperate to get rid of…but none of us are willing to give up our control.  We want happiness and peace, but won’t release this part of us that will bring these treasures to each and everyone of us.

It’s time to let go of our need to try and control every little aspect of our lives.  Stop this obsessive wanting that the Tao talks about and you will find the calm.  The peace.  Let your children, your spouse, your friends and family just be.  Just let the Tao, the Universe, the Divine or whatever you want to call this higher power, take over.  It is going to in the end whether you want it to or not.  Why fight it?  Find your silence and let the Tao anchor itself to you.  I promise, it will never disappoint!

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Personal Crucifixion

Being Easter weekend, it is hard not to reflect on the crucifixion of Jesus Christ…even if you aren’t religious or a believer.  If you know of, or ever read any of Gary Habermas’ books, he clearly and thoroughly points out that they have pure scientific evidence to support this historic event.  It is inarguable.  Whether we want to believe that Jesus Christ is the “son of God” or not, that is totally up to you, but we can’t fight this scientific evidence.

Looking at this sacrifice and hurt that this man went through, many of our lives reflect much of the same hurt and pain.  Maybe not to this degree, but some people would give him a run for his money.  How many of us have sacrificed ourselves for others?  How many of us have been cheated on?  How many of us have been lied to?  How many of us have been hurt by someone’s selfish deeds?  How many of us have been blamed for something that we never did?  How many of us have had to endure innocent suffering?

I know I sure have done all of these things to other people, and other people have done all of this to me.  It seems to be the way the world works.  As I get older, now I am watching my own children’s suffering for things that should have never happened to them.  It breaks my heart to see innocent people so affected by other people’s decisions.  Think about divorce.  How many innocent people are affected by this decision that is made by one or two people?  It affects so many people, but still people decide to go through this in their lifetimes, and so be it.  That is their walk.  No judgment.  Cancer…how many of us have innocently lost a loved one through this horrible disease?  This is not a choice, but it is devastating and affects many people all in the same.  Life just doesn’t seem fair.

As I try and learn how to become a better person, and transcend my ego, I am learning many great things that I want to share with you!  It makes life easier to understand.  Much of my reading and learning lately is really lining up.  I’m beginning to understand why I HAD to hurt people on my life’s journey.  I finally realize why the people that I love sometimes HAD to hurt me.  I’m even sympathetic to the people who are hurting my innocent children.  It’s all in our journeys to enlightenment.  We have to go through these pains to get to where we are meant to be.

I was looking at buying a book by Amorah Quan Yin, and before I ever buy a new author, I always search them on YouTube and see if there are any documentaries or videos of their talks that I can watch ensuring that our frequencies match.  Once I searched Amorah, the first video that popped up was, “Learning to Transcend Ego”.  Immediately, I knew I had to watch it.  This is my New Year’s Resolution and I am still hot on the hunt for information to diminish the negative ego in me.

She started talking about being hurt by others.  How we can’t take it personal.  We are all here on Earth for our spiritual journey (whether we want to admit it or not), and some of us are more enlightened than others.  She explained that if you have ever been lied to, betrayed, cheated on, or hurt in other ways by others, you should never take it personal.  The person that lied, betrayed or cheated on you, would have performed this negative act on anyone, not just you.  It was something this person has to go through to grow and become the person they were meant to be…and sadly, you were the person in the cross fire, so to speak.

If we see someone doing something we don’t like, we automatically go into judgment, which isn’t our place to judge.  Trust me, I know it’s hard!  When someone threatens to hurt your child, it is hard not to go into judgment, but it is possible.  I am learning, that I CAN stop these types of judgment.  I can release this negativity from me, because it is my negative ego that judges, that wants revenge, that gets upset and angry.  It is my negative ego that doesn’t even want to try and understand circumstances that might have made someone act this way.  When I take my ego out of the equation that is when I realize that this is the journey that this person has to take to grow and become more enlightened in this world.  My child just was caught in the drama of it all.  It could have been anyone.

Amorah gives the example of a spouse cheating on another spouse.  It is something this person needed to go through and they would have cheated no matter who they were married to, it is what they needed to do to grow as a human being and the other spouse shouldn’t take it personally.

These are just two examples to try and get my point across.  It’s hard to wrap your brain around…I know!  But, when you look at it from a non-negative ego perspective, it is easy to see the truth in it.  Just like Jesus’ crucifixion.  This was not what he should have had to endure, but it was his soul’s journey.  It was well planned out in advance.  Do you remember those last famous words he muttered while he was dying on the cross?  “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do” (Luke 23:24).

Even at the end of his life, he was not judging.  There was no anger.  Nothing but love.  That is what we have to try hard to model.  This endless love.  This non-judgement.  This non-attachment.  This non-resistance.  Just realize that everything (good and bad) happens for a reason.  You might not understand, but it is.  You don’t have to make sense out of it.  You don’t have to like it.  You just have to try your hardest to stop the judgment.  Stop the attachment.  Stop the resistance.  Just realize, this is your walk and this is the other person’s walk.  The soul’s journey.  It’s what we need to transform.

Every circumstance has a purpose for both people involved.  You have to just try and grow from all your experiences.  Good or bad.  As the old saying goes, “Good times become good memories.  Bad times become good lessons.”

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Tapping Souls

Even though I live in a small little city, I’m a huge country-girl at heart and loved growing up in the country.  I’m especially fond of all the country things that my father taught us and my favorite was our frequent walks in the woods.  Getting in touch with nature.  When you live in the woods, you make the forest your playground.  Your science lab.  Your jungle gym.  Your field trips.  Your everything.

This time of the year, makes me really miss the country life.  As the snow is melting, the days are getting warmer and longer, and this would be the time that my dad would take us out to tap the trees.  It’s funny, when I tell my city friends this, they honestly have no clue what I am even talking about.  They look at me like I have three heads.  But tapping trees was always so much fun, and I just thought it was a part of everyone’s childhood.

This is when the forest became our science lab, and I loved every minute of it.  The sound of the forest waking up after the long cold winter.  The smell of the melting trees.  The sound of sap dripping into the bucket.  These were all my signs of Spring.  It always mystified me that trees could produce such a sweet nectar from deep inside their core.

My dad, my brother and I would set out with a drill to make a hole deep into the Maple tree’s center, and then we would put a bucket under the pipe that we hammered into the tree to capture its sap.  Patiently we would wait for the sunny days to go fetch our collection of sugar from the sap that these trees produce.  Then we would boil it down until it becomes the delicious brown liquid that makes anyone’s mouth water in delight.

This year, as we celebrate the arrival of Spring, and are enjoying the longer, warmer days, it makes me miss my tree tapping days.  But I love how nature mimics our lives as humans.  We too have a sweet core, just like the Maple trees.  We too need to be tapped into to truly enjoy our sweet souls.

With many of us, we only see people’s exterior, just like we only see the tree’s exterior and aren’t exposed to the sweet nectar that is inside each and every one of us.  Sometimes we judge people by their appearance, what they may say to us or how they may act.  Often times we form impressions of people from what other people may tell us about them.

On many occasions we form assumptions on why people act the way they act or do the things they do.  We can’t “tap” into humans like we can a tree.  We can’t see how people are feeling, or understand why people are acting the way they are.  All we have to remember is that, just like a tree, we all have a very sugar and sweet inside…we all have a sweet soul.  Even if most people can’t see it.  It is there.  Maybe it only comes out in the spring, with the sun shining on them, but it is there and we shouldn’t judge or condemn anyone for their behavior.  They are being the best they know how to be for the time and situation of their lives.

As hard as it is to find the sweet “sappy” souls in some people, I would love for you all to try.  We are all created equal, and I truly believe we are all good people, even if some of us hide our sugary souls really well.  I’m trying hard to “tap” into everyone and understand that not everyone has the same amount of sap inside of them.  Some of us may have a litre of sap and other of us may have 10 litres of sap inside of us.  Not every tree will give you the same amount of sap.  Some trees are tapped out some years.

I’m especially trying hard not to gossip about people and their sap. I’m reading a good book by Alberto Villoldo called “Illumination Process” and he really opened my eyes about gossiping.  He says, “We all love to be on the inside track of the latest bit of gossip but be mindful: even listening to gossip is participating in an act of violence against the person you are hearing about.”

Wow!  When I read that, it really stopped me in my tracks.  I’ve been trying hard to get rid of this part of my life, to free myself from this karmic wheel, but when he put it this way, I really have to go back to the drawing board.

I love the quote from Buddha, “Gossip dies when it hits a wise person’s ears.”  I want to be that wise person!  I want to remind myself that we can’t “tap” into anyone, and we don’t know what is going on, on the inside of other people, nor should we think or assume we know.  All we have to know is, that there is pure sweetness deep inside the core and soul of every human being.

If only we could “tap” into people and taste everyone’s inner sweetness, then we could understand people better.  Sadly, this isn’t at all possible, but the way we act towards people, is something we can all tap into.  My rule of thumb is another quote from Buddha, “If you propose to speak always ask yourself: is it true, is it necessary, is it kind.”  This way, you will only “tap” into the pure sweet center of yourself and show the world, the sweet, amazing nectar that lives inside of you!

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Emotional Salmonella

March Break is over, and a week later, my son is still feeling the effects of it.  As wonderful as Mexico was, it wasn’t very wonderful for him.  He contracted salmonella while he was there.  Two days before we had to leave he started experiencing the symptoms and they haven’t let up since.

Thank goodness for Canadian health care!  As soon as we got home, we immediately went to the emergency room where they swiftly put him in an isolation room and did many tests, one being for salmonella.  Sadly there isn’t much they can do for him, but one of the big things they told us to do was to stop administering Immodium and Gravol.  They explained how taking these drugs would just suppresses the poison in his body.  The vomiting and diarrhea were a means of cleansing his body and for him to get better, he needs this cleansing to take place.

As I was dealing with this with my son, and meditating with one of my friends one night, it hit me.  This is exactly what we do with our own emotions.  We suppress them deep inside of us, and don’t let their poisonous effects come out.  We bury them deep inside and pretend all is well.

Then, after so much suppression, we find ourselves experiencing the symptoms of our own emotional poisoning, just like salmonella, only this poison is much harder to get out of our systems.  The doctor warned us that it might take our son 10-14 days to get better, but with emotional salmonella, it might take months or even years to return to our body’s normal state.

What strikes me funny is with salmonella, the doctor advised us to let the body flush it’s toxins out naturally and not to use any anti-nausea or anti-diarrhea medication, but when people have emotional salmonella, the doctors prescribe them lots of different medication to help stuff down and ignore the root of their problem.

You go to your doctor and explain that you are always tired, you are frustrated easily, you have trouble sleeping or all you want to do is sleep, you have weird pains that you never had, your appetite has changed, you don’t care about things that you used to, you just want to be alone, you have a hard time concentrating, you are hard on yourself, you feel numb, and can even have thoughts of dying.  What does your doctor do?  Prescribes you sleeping pills, anti-depressants, or other drugs to mask your poisoned body.

If people would just understand the power of meditation.  It is the body’s natural emotional flushing system.  It’s your body’s way of getting all the poison that has built up over years and years of suppressing negativity.  We even suppress things we don’t even realize we are suppressing.  We bury things subconsciously.  You might not realize that a situation bothered you until you are meditating and your replay the situation, and then learn how much it really bothered you.

You won’t get the instant relief that the drugs will give you through meditation, but just like giving my son Gravol to make him feel better, it is just keeping the poison in his system.  I’m not saying to stop using what the doctor has prescribed for the symptoms of emotional salmonella, I just want to encourage people to start and use meditation as a way of getting to the root of their poisoning, and then maybe they can stop using their medication.

As a parent, I would do whatever it takes to get my children healed from a sickness.  That is why I am teaching them to meditate at a young age, and other emotional and spiritual techniques to help them deal with life here on Earth.  Mental illness is nothing to ignore and should be taken seriously.  We all need strategies on how to deal with all the poisons that we are in contact with on a daily basis.

Yogi Bhajan says it nicely, “Meditation is a duty toward the self.  The moment you become aware of the self, you become beautiful to self because the moment you concentrate on self, your frequency changes and the universe around you changes also.  This is a cosmic law.”

We all should start concentrating on our self through meditation and have ourselves become totally cleansed and have the universe around us change.

Our son was the only one of the four of us that got sick, and we probably all could have come in contact with dangerous poisons as well, but the other three of us might have already had antibodies in our systems to fight off this poison.  We had the physical strategies to help deal with these poisons.  My wish is that everyone would start putting some mental strategies in a tool box to carry with them on a daily basis to fight off this emotional salmonella.

Life is too precious to have poison in our subconscious minds.  Try taking the meditational cleanse and see if the universe around you changes.  It is worth a shot!

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