Strengthening Struggles

Facebook is a funny thing.  I love posting on it, mostly because I get to see these posts as memories years from now.  This is really my motivation to post, but recently I shared a post that my daughter made the top 12 gymnastics provincial team.  The following day, the roster was released from Baseball NB that my son made the U17 team and I also shared that.

It’s very kind that people post congratulations on these posts, and comments such as what athletic children we have, but all I want to reply with is that all children are created equal and my children are just fortunate that they found sports that they enjoy and work hard at.

I love that my children are involved in sport, not to be recognized as making provincial teams, but for what sport teaches them.  Sport teaches that you strengthen through your struggles.  I’ve witness my daughter fight fears in gymnastics to finally concur them and continue to move forward.  I’ve been through shoulder rehab with my son so that he could be a successful pitcher again. Through sports, I’ve watched my children struggle and become stronger and more successful.  Their push and success through these pains and setbacks is what I’m most proud of…not their actual accomplishments in their chosen sport!

These sporting struggles eventually lead them to be stronger in their chosen sport.  Just like the struggles of their lives are making them stronger, more successful human beings, more prepared to move forward successfully in life from what they learned during their difficult times.

What people don’t see on my Facebook posts are my children’s life struggles.  Just because I don’t post them doesn’t mean they don’t exist.  Every Facebooker is experiencing personal struggles, but most of us never share this part of our lives with the Facebook world.

My daughter went through a horrible winter.  She was put on a hit list of another student in her school.  Actually her very close friend, who even texted her the date they planned to kill her.  “April 13 is going to be a blast!”  This hit our family hard, but we took this struggle and we attacked it like we would our sporting lives.  We knew that it was just a bump in our training and it was eventually going to make us all stronger!  A torn Achilles one may say.  Fortunately, it gave me an opportunity to practice what I preach and to work with her through her fear, anxiety, broken heart and devastation.

The entire time I kept explaining to her that this person just needs love, and we would take time out of our days to do just that.  Send this person love.  I talk about it to her when she brings it up.  She saw this individual lately and of course it stirred up many emotions in her, but I explained to her that this is all things she has to work through to make her stronger for whatever life is going to throw her way next.

Another big life lesson that this situation opened the door for me was to teach her to not take anything personally.  This is the other person’s problem, not hers.  She is just being caught in the cross fire of their inner issues.  Any time my children feel like they are being attacked in some way, I stress that it isn’t their problem and they shouldn’t take it personally.  This is the second of the “Four Agreements” found in the book “Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz taken from the Ancient Mexican Toltec wisdom.  If you are looking for a great book on freeing yourself from this crazy world, I definitely recommend this one.

My son is no different.  He has his life struggles too, and we work through them the same as I do with my daughter.  I have made both of them listen to the Four Agreements that are found on Youtube, and hopefully they keep this ancient wisdom in their brains as a strengthening tool for their life to come.  My mission is to give them as many strengthening tools as I possibly can!

The Universe sends us many strengthening tools, just like we use in sports.  I’m sure everyone is familiar with the basic bench press?  This is a strengthening tool created to strengthen our chest muscles…or pectoral muscles to be exact!  Well, life gives us many bench presses in the run of our lives to help strengthen ourselves as human beings.  As parents we are going to watch our children struggle under the weight of the bench press, but we have to let them bench press it themselves.  We can stand and maybe spot them through it if they need us, but we can’t bench press it for them.  We have to let them get sore from their attempts and try the bench press again.

Nothing is more rewarding than watching your child increase their ability to press more weight on the bench press as they strengthen through their constant struggles.  The same is true with life.  We all have to struggle with the weight of the bench press to strengthen ourselves and move forward in this world.

There is a great quote that I am sure you’ve all heard before, “What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger.” That quote is attributed to the German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche, who Netflix did a great episode on in “Geniuses of the Ancient World” which I recommend you watching too.  Actually, he said it much more eloquently: “That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.” And, if you look at life like a sport and our struggles as a bench press, surprisingly this man is right!


Religious Buffet

Do you ever struggle with religion and what is right and what is wrong?  I have for a long time.  My argument with many of my hard-core Christian friends is there is no freaking way that Mahatma Gandhi didn’t make it to Heaven.  If Heaven is a real place, than that man deserves to be there, whether or not he believed in Jesus has no bearing on his final destiny.  His story is all inspiring for every man to emulate.

The further I dive in educating myself on the matters of the universe, the more I am finally understanding this.  I love the buffet of spirituality that is out there for us to taste.  There is an endless selection of information, and I plan on tasting it all!  I’ve read the Bible.  Verse by verse, I’ve studied the Dhammapada (collection of Buddha’s verses) conducted online by a Buddhist monk.  I’ve read the Tibetan Book of the Dead for my own personal reading pleasure.  And, I am very excited to say that I only have 40 more lessons remaining in A Course in Miracles and I will have my 365 days of the workbook section complete.  This is just a few of my reading material that I have studied over the past few years, not to mention hundreds of other books on ego, mindfulness, meditation and enlightenment.

One might say I am totally obsessed, but as Wayne Dyer recommends, I am just trying to “have a mind that is open to everything and is attached to nothing.”  He also said, “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you know nothing about.”  I think these are very wise words, but how many of us, really educate ourselves in all area of spirituality?  This is one thing I decided I wasn’t going to be guilty of.  I still have many more books that I want to continue to read, and the Bhagavad Gita is the next on my list.

I’m sure I am not the only one that has had the question in life of how can only one religion be the only way!  I’m sure I’m not the only person thinking if Christianity is right, then Mahavira, Krishna and Buddha are wrong?  If Mahavira, Krishna and Buddha are right then Moses, Jesus and Mahammed are wrong.  All of them can’t be right!  Right?  Why not?  I am learning that this is all a matter of perception!  And in all reality…it is only your ego that needs to think they know what is right.  Nevertheless, I love educating myself on all of this!  I am also learning that if you drop your ego in the midst of this thinking and drop the thought of religion being a theory and change your thinking to religion just being a device, then there is no conflict at all.

During my research, I love when my findings line up.  I was very excited when I was listening to a pod cast of Swedenborg and Life called, “How Different Religions Coexist in Heaven” found here: because according to this eighteenth-century scientist and philosopher, he explained that all religions go to Heaven, and that there is a way in for each and every one of them.  Believe it or not, the Creator has designed an assorted religions for all different kinds of mindsets in humanity.  Like a spiritual buffet for all different palates.  Mind blowing right?

We have to realize that if we let go of the necessity of thinking only one way is the “the way”, which is a huge part of the ego, then we can taste it all.  Neither is right, neither is wrong.  What does it matter if one religion thinks we come here once and either go to Heaven or Hell, or if we have endless lives and we keep returning until we learn the ways of the world?  For many people these theories are very important and they want the answers.

I am currently reading an incredible book by Osho called, “The Book of Secrets”, and he had a great way to explain this all.  He explains that all religions were born many centuries ago in the Eastern area of the world.  Jesus, Moses and Mohammed were talking to one group of people, and Buddha, Krishna and Mahavira were talking to a totally different group of people.

Jesus, Moses and Mohammed were religions designed for poor, under educated people.  These gurus were also not educated.  For a poor man, one life is more than enough.  He doesn’t want to have to ever come back to this world, but if he knows there is hope after this life, he will act appropriately in order to get to this Promised Land called Heaven.  If you tell this type of mind he will be coming back to this world again and again, his mind just can’t handle this theory.

Buddha, Mahavir and Krishna were produced and had followers from a very rich, cultured, sophisticated and educated society.  These spiritual teachers were refined in every way, their group of followers were bored because they had everything they needed for this life time.  These gurus were talking to a rich society and Heaven was meaningless, where Jesus’ followers, Heaven was everything and very meaningful.  Buddha’s teachings were centered around freedom, and Jesus’ world would not have attracted these sorts of people.  They were already in a Heaven on Earth.

For a rich man, suffering is not his problem, it is boredom, but a poor man, a promise of pleasure waiting for him in the afterlife, is very attractive.  The rich people wanted to get off this wheel of life, and it was attractive for them to know that becoming enlightened would finally get them off this wheel.

What does this all come down to?  Different taste buds!  People are different and there are many different religions in the world to reach all diverse taste buds.  What tastes good to me, might be totally repulsive to another.  What works for me might not work for someone else.  It might not even work for my own children, and that is totally ok.  They have their own mind, their own set of taste buds and it is their job to find out what taste is appealing for them.  I will supply them with lots of different tastes for their palates or devices, but I am not putting them on a strict diet and telling them what to eat or how they have to think.  That is not my job as their parent.  We are all on our independent journeys, and we all have to recognize this.  Let other people be who they want to be, eat what they want to eat, read what they want to read, and worship what they want to worship.

If we stop taking religious theories as the only way and realize they are just devices to become better people, then Jesus, Moses, Mohammed, Buddha, Mahavir and Krishna are all right in their own way.  Depending on the person’s perspection.  They create different journeys for different people.  They create different techniques for different minds and they have a different tastes for different palates.  These differences aren’t to be fought over, they are to be embraced and celebrated.  It is only when your own insecurity flares that create problems, and that is all your ego needing to be right and proving its superiority.  We are all created equally, and differently, and we all should open our minds to realizing even our Divine Creator celebrated this and gave us a buffet of choices for our different taste buds of life!


Traffic Circle of Life

Summer is such a wonderful season!  The strong sun’s rays, morning birds chirping with happiness, the ability to enjoy the pleasures of the beach and all it has to offer, the longer days, the colorful flowers, the warm night’s air and the flowery aromas of the beautiful gardens.  The list of miracles is endless, and all depends on what you find to appreciate.

One thing I have to say that I am not a fan of in the summer time is all the road construction.  They are constantly fixing something.  It makes summer traveling slow due to one lane of traffic and waiting to take your turn to get through in different areas.

I was actually impressed with our city!  They decided to change a dangerous intersection into a traffic circle to make it safer and more convenient for travelling.  Or so they presume.  I am confident that the city did their research to back this up, or experience from placing these traffic circles in other cities and having much success with them.

As I was driving on this torn out piece of our cities hub the other evening, I found this new change in our traffic flow very symbolic to life.  How many times do we take the time to tear apart our minds to change the flow of our lives?

Our city took the time to investigate this intersection that seems to cause multiple accidents year after year and decided it was time to make a change.  They made the conscious decision to reconfigure the situation and make a change in the flow of traffic.  I really wish people would start looking at their own lives and where they make the same mistakes or accidents to themselves year after year, or time after time.  You have to start noticing a pattern, just like our city noticed this intersection repeatedly seemed to be hazardous for drivers for some reason.

It is time to start realizing your habitual mistakes and maybe start attacking the problem with a proactive approach.  It’s not your fault you make the same mistakes time after time, it is programmed in your subconscious.  You have to take the time each and every day to start tearing apart your subconscious mind that has been creating your accidents.  It really is holding you back from all the amazing things that you are worthy of having in this world.

How are you going to do this?  Make it a priority in your life to meditate and clear your subconscious of all the pot holes, dangerous intersections, and emotional upsets that you’ve been travelling around with year after year.  Just as our city did research on how to fix this hazardous intersection and come up with this new idea, scientific research is overwhelming on the power of the subconscious mind and the benefits of meditation.  Check it out for yourself.  Google it!

I always love to leave a quote to plant the seed for you to ponder and this time my quote is a little lengthy, but comes from a book that I recommend everyone reading or listening to (the entire audio book is available on Youtube for free) titled, “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” by Joseph Murray.

“In the ancient world, Hermes Trismegistus had the reputation of being the greatest, most powerful magus the world ever known.  When his tomb was opened, centuries after his passing, those who were in touch with the wisdom of the ancients waited with great expectancy and a sense of wonder.  It was said that the greatest secret of the ages would be found within the tomb.  As so it was.  The secret inscribed in the tomb read:

As within, so without;

As above, so below.

In other words, whatever you impress in your subconscious mind, that becomes expressed on the screen of space.  This same truth was proclaimed by Moses, Isaiah, Jesus, Buddha, Zoroaster, Lao Tzu, and all the illumined seers of the ages.”

I’m no seer like these great noted people above, but I am smart enough to know, that these amazing ancient minds, and modern scientific research are both saying the same thing.  It’s time we all start rerouting our subconscious and put in a nice new traffic circle in our subconscious minds to free ourselves of anymore unnecessary accidents!

Take time everyday, and start making meditation a daily priority!  I promise, you are worth it!


Update Ourselves

I have to say, I’m not a fan of all the updates that come with the Apple products.  I know they are probably universal and there are updates for all electronic devices, but since I have Apple products, I notice it the most.

As my school year comes to an end, and I finally get the summer to recoup from a long year of hard work, I am starting to feel like I am in huge need one of these updates.  I need to plug into some new energy and let my body just re-energize for a while.

I am ready for a new and improved version of myself.  I’m ready to put some energy into me.  I want to sit back all summer and read books, listen to videos and educate myself as much as I can on anything spiritual and how to become all that I was created to be.  I’m ready for an update.  If only it was as easy as updating your electronic device!

How many of us let ordinary life pass us by and never take time for ourselves.  To better ourselves?  To love ourselves!  To spend alone time with ourselves so that we can see life through the eyes of love and peace and not exhaustion, anger, bitterness or hate.  If a phone or electronic device takes time to make itself better, I’m hoping that as humans, and the top of the intellectual chain, we should take time for ourselves to make ourselves better.  But how many of us don’t?  How many of us just continue through life as we are. We might even have the same hair style, or wear the same styles that we did in high school.  But here we are.  Years later, and we haven’t changed a bit.

As much as I am not a fan of change, I realize it is a part of our lives on this planet.  We have come here to become better people.  To get our updates and to become a better version than we were before.  Just like Apple products.  We need to update ourselves and find why we were put in this world.

That’s what I love about A Course in Miracles.  It is a book perfectly formatted to actually update your brain.  Your life.  Through its teachings you can become a better version of yourself.

For those who have never heard about this book, A Course in Miracles is a complete self-study spiritual thought system.  Its focus is on universal love and peace, by reprogramming this thought system of guilt that has been inbred into us from infancy.  Its target is forgiving others and ourselves.  The Course teaches us how to heal relationships and making them holy, especially within ourselves.  The best part for me is, A Course in Miracles is just a type of universal spiritual teaching and not a religion.  It just focuses on making you a newer improved version of yourself.

I love this quote from this beloved text, “Seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world.”  It is time that we all finally let our updates happen.  Let the new version of you download.  Take time to start seeing the world differently.  You can’t change the world, but you can change how you perceive it.  A Course in Miracles will help you with your update.  It has a 365 day reprogramming system for your brain.  You just have to make the effort to plug yourself into the book for five to ten minutes every day.  I promise it will be the best time you ever spent on yourself.

As much as we all hate to get the new update notice on our electric devices, we appreciate them after we learn how to function with them.  The same will happen if your take the time to update your thought system to that of love and peace.  Take the time to update yourself this summer.  Make it a summer goal.  Who doesn’t want to become a better version of themselves?


Bikini Body or Meditative Mind?

As summer hits, lots of people are on the quest for that perfect “Beach Body”.  I completely understand why!  According to the Food Research & Action Center more than two thirds of Americans are overweight or obese.  This definitely should be an area of concern and a motivation to better ourselves as humanbeings!

Thankfully, it is also reported that 77% of Americans claim to be trying to eat healthier.  That is a very encouraging number!  We are all witnesses to this growing phenomenon!  How many people do you know are on the Keto Diet?  I know many of the people in my life are, and I think it is great!  People should be caring about what they put into their body.  I just wish the world would start focusing on what they put in their mind as much as their bodies.

Many people start the Keto diet for many reasons.  Some may have diabetes in their family, and they were preventing this happening to them.  Others were trying to lower their blood pressure, and a few were just doing it to feel better about themselves.  These are all valid reasons to start looking after yourself.

On a different note, did you know anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness, affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18.1% of the population every year?  This is a crazier statistic than obesity!  Why aren’t we focusing on this instead of our body weight?  I am positive, that if we dealt with our anxiety disorder epidemic, the weight issue would dissipate!  How many people eat when they are depressed?  Eat to make them feel better.  Just eat to eat.  Food fills their gap.  If people could get control over their mind, the eating healthy part would come easily.  As your mind develops and changes, so will your life choices.

Nowadays, people are informed about the studies on how meditation can change your life!  How it can reduce stress, improve concentration, encourages a healthy lifestyle, increases happiness, increases self-love, slows aging, increases immune function, increases the gray matter in your brain, just to name a few of the benefits at the tip of this amazing meditation iceberg.

As you can see, I’m a huge promoter, and I try to influence people as much as possible.  Sadly, I always hear the excuses like: I don’t have time.  I can’t sit still long enough.  I can’t stop my mind from wondering.  I’ve tried it and it isn’t for me.  Of course it isn’t for you!  Who has time to experience all these wonderful benefits I previously mentioned?

All sarcasm aside, let me put it to you another way.  Meditation is the absolute last thing that your ego wants you to do.  Your ego wants to ruin your life.  That is why it is in us.  Its sole purpose!  To make your life a living hell!  Making these excuses not to meditate is your ego talking, not your true self.

Look back at the list of benefits of meditation I mentioned earlier.  Your ego doesn’t want you to have any of these.  It doesn’t want you happy.  It doesn’t want you to love yourself.  It wants you to age and worry about the way you look.  It doesn’t want you living a healthy lifestyle.  It wants you stressed out.  Why are people letting this part of their thought process win?  Why won’t people start looking at meditation in higher regards than diet or exercise?  It is something that should become a part of everyone’s daily routine.

I’m reading a really great book that I highly recommend to anyone interested in the science of meditation, and it is called “The Book of Secrets” by Osho.  One little sentence I read really shouted at me and I thought would fit perfect for this blog, “Change the within and the without will change!”

So many of us are caught in this crazy web of life, being spun around and around by our egos and all that it makes us think we want and need.  These are the reasons anxiety and depression is on such an up hill climb.  Everyone wants to know the key to happiness…and guess where you will find it?  Within.  Not without.  We have to let our true self talk, and how do you hear your true self?  Sit in silence.  Meditate!


Easy Way or Hard Way?

In honor of Father’s Day coming up, I wanted to pay tribute to the father of my children.  I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, but when it came to choosing a father for my children, I definitely hit the Jackpot.  Actually that is one of my on-going jokes.  I have no luck anymore because I used it all up finding my husband.  In all honesty, this man is everything I imagined the father of my children to be.

One of my favorite techniques that my husband uses when parenting our children is the technique he refers to as “The Easy Way or the Hard Way”.  As soon as he says these words, our children know exactly what he is referring to.

When they were younger, in their testing-their-boundaries stages, if we asked them to do something and they kicked up a fuss, my husband would say, “We can do this the easy way or the hard way, you choose.”  They knew exactly what this choice meant.  They could either go along with what was being asked of them and cooperate, or be forced to do it with my husband’s help.  And they never did enjoy this method.

They knew that it would be way more painful if their father brushed their teeth.  Or they knew it was not as pleasant to have him take their hands and pick up their dishes out of the living room, one dish at a time, and bring it out to the kitchen with his help.  They always halfheartedly laughed at his technique, but it was more because of his silliness in his helping method than anything.

I feel this is very much what our souls go through as they are here on Earth learning their own boundaries.  Our Creator is sitting back, watching our souls grow and giving us lots of love and guidance along the way.  Just like my husband with our children, the Divine is directing our every step, but sometimes he is saying to us, “We can do this the easy way, or the hard way.”

How many of us, many times, choose the hard way?  How many of us know that our lives would be much easier if we had of made different choices?  How many of us know that if we just had of done what we are being asked to do, life would be much easier but we still choose to do it the hard way.  Much suffering come to us over our choices.  We had a voice in the back of our minds chanting to us, “You shouldn’t do this.”  But, we do it anyway.  That is because we are feeding our ego and not our spirit.

Our Creator isn’t here to take us by the hand and lead us, like my husband would do to help our children do what they needed to do whether they wanted to or not.  But, if you would stop and get in tune with your soul, you would know the right way to do everything.  You would understand what the easy way is and the hard way wouldn’t be an option any more.  A good rule of thumb is if it is done with love, it is coming from the Divine.  If it is done with hatred, anger, jealousy, bitterness, or revenge, that is totally coming from your ego.  The ego does not want you happy.  It wants you to feel sorry for yourself.  It wants you to blame others.  It thrives when you are jealous or envious of others.

But when we make these ego lead choices that taint our souls, the Divine doesn’t stop us, or force us to do what he wanted us to do.  Instead, we will make our choice, and then experience the consequences after, however painful they may be.  Some may call it Karma, but it is definitely a parenting technique used by our Creator.  The Universe will shout a little louder at us the next time we make that same simple mistake.  This pattern will continue, with the Universe yelling a little louder and a little louder each time until finally we get it right.

Most of the time, each time that we make the bad choice over and over again, we get to feel the karma or pain of making the wrong choice.  You’ve all experienced I am sure.  As A Course in Miracles says, “It’s not up to you what you learn, but only whether you learn through joy or through pain.”  We are all here on Earth to learn the lessons our soul needs to develop and become enlightened.  What method we learn with is up to us.  If we do it the easy way, we will experience joy and happiness once we learn and change.  If we learn it the hard way, we will continue to experience pain until finally, we let go of our egos and let our consciousness take over.  Let love rule.

Now, that our children are 13 and 15 years of age, I rarely hear their father use this parenting technique.  They just know that they have these two choices, and they don’t even have to be reminded of what choice to make.  They were fast learners.  I’m now 44 and have been on my spiritual path for three and a half years now, and I’m finally starting to clue in like my children.  I can either learn my lessons the easy way or the hard way too.  Finally, I’m letting my ego go and learning my soul’s lessons the easy way.

What is your choice?  Are you going to continue to go through this life ruled by your ego, and learn things the hard way, or are you going to let the love of the Universe take over and learn things the easy way?  Your Father is proud of you either way!  He’s a very patient and loving Creator!


Black Magic Gossip

I am not a television person.  Our home television would not come on if it wasn’t for my husband.  I watch informational videos on YouTube.  Swedenborg and Life, Wayne Dyer specials, The Dhammapada educational videos, Gary Habermas, Richard Moss, Marianne Williamson, Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday, just to name a few of my favorites.  Rarely would I watch TV.  Television now has many proven negatives, and I am glad that isn’t one of my vices.

What I honestly don’t understand is how regular people can fall in love with television and movie stars.  People magazine, The Star, US Weekly, National Inquirer, etc. make millions off of other people’s desire to know what is going on in celebrities’ worlds.  Who they are dating.  What they said about so-and-so.  What their parents are doing.  It is crazy how they torment these individuals trying to get the latest scoop, the recent sighting, or the craziest wardrobe flop.

I was never one of these people that felt the need to know about the lives of the rich and famous.  Now, the more and more I learn about spirituality, the more and more I am realizing how important it is to not worry about anyone’s world, but my own.  I am going to spend my valuable time learning to love myself, not celebrities.  My mission is to love my life, not wish that I had the things other people have.  My focus is to drown myself in my own self -love, so I will realize just how rich I really am, not worry about the rich and famous.

One of my spiritual running buddies, knowing that I am spiritual literature-aholic, recently tagged me in a great blog by Gabby Bernstein called, “6 Books That Will Inspire & Support You on Your Spiritual Path”.  I couldn’t wait to check out Gabby’s recommendations.  I hurried to Amazon to search the books and see if I could get any cheap second hand ones.  My next stop — YouTube to see what books are available as an audio version to listen to for free.

I was very excited to see many of them were available, so my first choice was, “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz.  I can’t express how thrilled I was.  It was only a 24 minute blurb on the first chapter of the book, but it was all on the “First Agreement: Being Impeccable to Your Word.”  It was exactly what I needed to hear.

As I sat and listened there were a vast of information flooding my ears, and I had to pause it to write down certain quotes.  One of the first magical ear candy was, “Sin begins with rejection of yourself.  Self-rejection is the biggest sin you commit.”  Exactly what I was trying to stop over these last three and a half years.  Self-rejection.  Right away, I texted it to my friend for her to contemplate over and also encourage that she listens to this book.

As I progressed further in the book, it just got better and better.  Finally it started talking about the “black magic of gossiping”.  That really caught my attention.  Since my epiphany of self-love began, I cherish the importance of my body.  I started removing negative elements from my body a little at a time.  I eliminated caffeine trying to get more in touch with myself.  Then it was the sweet white nectar more addictive than cocaine…sugar.  That was my second element I cleaned from my life on my path to self-love.  Then listening to this, I knew exactly what my next mission would be.  To rid my life of gossip.  I know!  I know!  Way easier said than done, but I am going to try!

If you listen to the way Don Miguel Ruiz explains it in his book, you would never want it anywhere near your life again.  It is such a dangerous chain reaction, deadlier than any sort of caffeine or sugar to the mind.

He uses the analogy of the human mind and gossip as a computer and a computer virus.  Once the computer code (gossip) gets introduced to your computer, your computer doesn’t work the same way it did, or it might not work at all, because the codes are so scrambled.  The same goes for gossip in your life.  You don’t know where people’s opinions come from.  Usually if people are talking poorly about someone it is out of jealousy, anger, resentment or bitterness of some sort.  Their ego’s prejudice that are talking and spreading lies about that person.  We all do it, but we all have to stop.  It is poisoning our minds, just like the computer viruses poison your computer.

It is time for all of us to evaluate our lives and start on our individual paths to self-love.  It’s time to cut ourselves off from the addiction of putting our nose in other people’s business.  Celebrities or non-celebrities.  Instead of scrolling your precious time away on Facebook to see the newest scoop, or watching TMZ, use that 30 minutes to listen to this 24 minute YouTube video on Miguel’s book.  If I can educate one person on the value of eliminating gossip from their life, it will make this blog worthwhile, and the world a better place!  It all starts with one person!  Be that person today!